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Slipped off
I am a person which has a very limited sexual life because is really scared about STDs after I already got a lesser one.
8 months ago I had occasional sex with a married woman with a marriage in crisis.
Condom slipped off and I didn't understand it so I continued for few minutes till I ejaculated.
When I finished we discovered that the condom was still inside her (she found it 2 days later)
I am pretty sure that it slipped off during intercourse because after it I understood I was in contact with her skin. (I' say no more than 1-2 minutes).
I really took care about any symptom I could have after that event. Nothing happened after 4-6 weeks.
However after 3-4 months I had severe itchings at my hair and I used my long nails to irritate the skin under my hair even more. I read on some italian forum that itching is an HIV symptom.
After 8 months (few days ago) I had a small herpes-like close to my mouth (I never had herpes in my life!) and I used again my nails to irriate the skin, this time on my front and eyebrows. It looked like dermathitis, however they passed in less than 2 weeks. Just the worst one is kept on my eyebrow, but is still healing.
So I started reading again about STDs and found some data which are making me paranoic.
The woman is not a commercial worker and she said that the only way she could have HIV is from her husband,
however this could *obviously* be a lie (assuming that I was not the first one she met) and she said she never had a test.
I found that HIV from heterosexual sex acts are increasing year by year in women in Italy
Actual incindenced is estimated about 1 in 350, but average infection age is close to her age.
I also found that unprotected insertive vaginal sex has an infection rate ranging from 1:500 to 1:2000.
At last I am from a zone which has an infection rate lower than average.
Given all of the above I'd like to know if you think I should get tested or chances are that low that I am really paranoic.
Can you give me more data about the kind of symptoms I had?
8 months ago I had occasional sex with a married woman with a marriage in crisis.
Condom slipped off and I didn't understand it so I continued for few minutes till I ejaculated.
When I finished we discovered that the condom was still inside her (she found it 2 days later)
I am pretty sure that it slipped off during intercourse because after it I understood I was in contact with her skin. (I' say no more than 1-2 minutes).
I really took care about any symptom I could have after that event. Nothing happened after 4-6 weeks.
However after 3-4 months I had severe itchings at my hair and I used my long nails to irritate the skin under my hair even more. I read on some italian forum that itching is an HIV symptom.
After 8 months (few days ago) I had a small herpes-like close to my mouth (I never had herpes in my life!) and I used again my nails to irriate the skin, this time on my front and eyebrows. It looked like dermathitis, however they passed in less than 2 weeks. Just the worst one is kept on my eyebrow, but is still healing.
So I started reading again about STDs and found some data which are making me paranoic.
The woman is not a commercial worker and she said that the only way she could have HIV is from her husband,
however this could *obviously* be a lie (assuming that I was not the first one she met) and she said she never had a test.
I found that HIV from heterosexual sex acts are increasing year by year in women in Italy
Actual incindenced is estimated about 1 in 350, but average infection age is close to her age.
I also found that unprotected insertive vaginal sex has an infection rate ranging from 1:500 to 1:2000.
At last I am from a zone which has an infection rate lower than average.
Given all of the above I'd like to know if you think I should get tested or chances are that low that I am really paranoic.
Can you give me more data about the kind of symptoms I had?
Best Answer
Test for HIV and other STD's as soon as possible.Only testing can ease your mind.
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After 8 months of driving yourself, I'd suggest getting tested of peace of mind.
I would also suggest reading up on sexual alternatives two (or more) people can enjoy which are risk free.Or at least lower risk, since you are not a man who can relax to enjoy conventional "safer sex".
You remind me of a married woman I knew in college who used 4 different forms of birth control (at the same time), and couldn't figure out why she didn't enjoy it. I always felt sorry for her husband, who I never even met. Sex is supposed to be fun. If you can't relax and enjoy it, find an alternative and creative way of relieving that tension in your testicles. .
I don't see you as a man who would be happy in a monastery. Not that you would necessarily escape sex there - just women! (g).
A few years ago, a group of teenagers put out a book here in the US "!000 Ways You Can Show Your Love Without Doing "It"" .If teenagers can find ways to safely express their affection (admittedly, while abstinent), I'm sure two or more intelligent adults in the land of AMOR (I grew up in an Italian neighborhood in New York) can find ways to get each other off safely.
Remember - the largest sexual organ is the human brain.(Credit: Dr. Ruth)
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