Small canker sore during oral sex

I recently engaged in oral sex with another man.  He mostly performed oral sex on me, but there were a few times when I performed oral sex on him as well (maybe about 1-2 minutes total).  I noticed he was dripping some precum from his penis.  That got me a little worried, but I thought that as long as he didn't *** in my mouth, it would be okay.  That night when I was brushing my teeth, I notice a wierd feeling on the back my tongue when I toothbrush hit it.  I was worried it was a canker sore.  I couldn't tell what it was from looking at it in the mirror, but it certainly felt like it could be the start of a canker sore.  Sure enough, the next morning, there was a big canker sore there.  I started getting really worried now that maybe it was there when I was performing oral sex and some of his precum might've gotten onto it.  How worried should I be?  I keep reading various opinions about the safety of oral sex, but it seems like no one knows for sure.  Are canker sores really that dangerous to have while performing oral sex?  Does it matter if the sore is small vs. big?  Or the location of the sore?  Maybe since it was only precum, it might be as risky?  I'm definitely going to take an HIV test to make sure, but should I be completely freaked out or am I worrying too much???

[Teak]

You were never at risk.

[alienshadow]

get educated on hiv

[aznjk]

hmmm... I feel that I am pretty well educated on hiv.  i know that there are a lot conflicting reports on the subject of oral sex and hiv transmission.  but in almost all reports, they all say that having a canker sore or other open wound in your mouth will increase your chances are getting hiv if it comes in contact with enough semen or pre-semen.  depending on various factors, pre-semen can have almost as high a concentration of hiv than semen.  how can you say that having contact with pre-semen on an open canker sore carries absolutely *no risk* of hiv infection??

[Uniquelymen]

Hi there,

Yes, it is possible for infection to take place, at least in theory.  But in real, as you have mentioned depend on alot of various factors, it don't happened.

Those sore, cuts....can increase the chances, but the chances are still like 0, so basically no risk.  And so far there is no documented case of such infection taken place by this mode itself.

I would recommend, if you are sexually active, do go for STDs and HIV test every half yearly or yearly.

[aznjk]

Thanks for the intelligent and thoughtful answer Uniquelymen.  It doesn't help when someone comes to this site with genuine anxiety and worries and get short rude answers like "get educated on hiv".  I know the risk is low, but there is still some risk in theory like you said.  The problem with most "documented cases" is that there's no way of telling with 100% certainty how people got infected.  They might've gotten infected from oral sex, then had anal sex the day after and assumed that they must've gotten it from anal sex.  Or they might be lying about their sexual experiences due to embarrassment or shame.  

I did read about a study on 200 couples where one partner was hiv- and the other hiv+ and all couples engaged in only oral sex.  At the end of the study, none of the hiv- partners became hiv+.  While this is certainly encouraging, it doesn't necessarily prove that oral sex is 100% safe.  These couples know and love each other, so they are probably very careful and very safe while having oral sex.  They are also probably very careful about making sure there are no cuts/sores in their mouths or on their penises.  

I'm not trying to say that people should be overly paranoid about oral sex, but they should be aware that there's some risk to having oral sex and that some precautions should be taken.  I think there's a growing view among gay men that oral sex = safe sex, that they can go around performing oral sex on every guy they meet and never get hiv from it.  I think that's a dangerous viewpoint to have.  

Anyways, just my two cents.  Thanks for listening.