Stubble burn & Rough masturbation

[overthinkingit86]

Hi there,

I understand a lot of questions on here get repeated, and, from what I've gathered, mutual masturbation is not a risk for HIV. Like everyone else though, I'm somewhat convinced that my situation is unique and I may have exposed myself to a potential risk, and any insight to alleviate my fears would be most appreciated.

Scenario 1. Met up with a casual partner. We got naked and engaged in some light frottage, masturbation, and kissing. The thing that concerns me here is that my partner (who I asked if he was HIV neg and he said I was) pre-came heavily and, having masturbated a bit roughly earlier that day, my penis/foreskin was a bit raw and sore. I assume there were micro-cuts etc present as when I went to the bathroom during the day it would sting a little when I urinated. Is it possible that his precum, when we were rubbing against each other, got into these microcuts directly from his penis and into my bloodstream? Coincidentally, I had a HIV duo test 3 weeks after this incident (I get one 6 monthly) and it came back negative. Is this any indication of my status, or is this whole scenario a no-risk situation?

Scenario 2. I engaged in oral sex (giving and receiving), masturbation, and frottage with another casual partner roughly 6 weeks after scenario 1. Again, I asked his status, he stated negative and that he tested a month prior without being with anyone since. My concern here is that, it takes me a long time to cum and, as such, at times I was masturbating/masturbated quite vigorously, to the point that the next day my penis head was rather raw and sore and, again, my foreskin stung a little when I urinated (assumedly, due to microcuts/abrasions).
However, what concerns me more is that, during the acts (taking place throughout the night, over a period of a few hours intermittently), to stimulate each other at times we rubbed our stubble against each others' penis heads while performing oral/masturbating each other. It felt good at the time, albeit a bit sore, but now (some 3/4 weeks after the incident) I'm wondering if this vigorous stubble burn on my penis head could have created a route for transmission if precum was involved.
I know oral sex is no risk, so that doesn't concern me too much, but if my penis head was red raw, and my foreskin had small abrasions/cuts (nothing bled, but very sensitive for a day or two after) could this be a potential HIV exposure if precum was involved? Or is it that, when folks say mutual masturbation is NO risk, that scenarios such as these are included in that umbrella term?

Any help would be most appreciated; I find once I've dealt with my worries over a particular scenario once (I have OCD and am well aware of my HIV-related anxiety; I am currently on sertraline and getting better) I generally don't worry about it again, but naturally, stubble burn is a new one for me that I can't seem to find on the boards.

Thanks again!

[overthinkingit86]

That's great!

Thanks again; I know it must be trying for you guys at times on here, but I really appreciate the effort you put into alleviating the [often irrational] fears of myself and others.

[Teak]

No risk what so ever.

[overthinkingit86]

So to cap this all off, even with the raw stubble burn/abrasion to the penis head, and the microtears and cuts to the foreskin, exposure to any amount of precum during mutual masturbation is not a risk, and I can put this, and any similar future scenarios like it, behind me as a no risk scenario?

Thanks again

[Teak]

HIV is not transmitted by masturbation. You do not have an HIV concern.

[overthinkingit86]

haha, apt name, huh? I know I am, but I would just feel more secure in having more than one answer (not meaning to offend, but as I'm sure you're used to, a lot of the people asking questions on here are a little rattled), if that makes sense. I don't plan on clogging the boards, but could just use a bit more piece of mind to move on from this and have a more relaxed sexually active lifestyle than I currently possess.

[chook110607]

you are really overthinkingit. seriously. this does not put you at risk.

[overthinkingit86]

Ah ok, so am I right in thinking then that, even if I was suffering from stubble burn/micro tears to my foreskin/penis head at the time of the act(s), the fact that the precum/sperm of the partner would have to go from a (penis) to b (air) to c (skin, which would already be healing) it would be inactive?

Teak? Lizzie?

[chook110607]

any cuts you have/had are not a route for hiv to enter your body. hiv must be introduced deep into the body, not just on the surface. Any cut you had, your body would have began healing/patching the area immediately.

[overthinkingit86]

That's great, thanks. I might be hedging my bets, but could you perhaps explain why? I understand that once outside the body the virus becomes inactive, but if it's going straight from one penis to a microcut/heavily abraded area within a few seconds is that not a short enough period for successful transmission?
Even with the stubble burn?

Thanks again.

[chook110607]

No risk for hiv transmission.

[overthinkingit86]

No, no symptoms, but symptoms aren't very reliable for HIV. Why don't we just wait until Teak or Lizzie or one of the more learned posters give us an answer, since we're both anxious about it?