To IN THE NICK OF TIME...or anyone else

[troubled3]

As you know, I have tested negative after 2 months and 4 months after exposure. My b/f and I are now back together in a completely monogamous relationship. He got sudden flu-like symptoms back in February (chills, sweats, sore throat, weakness, possible fever) that came on very sudden then went away all at once after 5 days. Now, just 2 days ago the same thing happened very suddenly. Neither of us have any STD, nor genital herpes or cuts on our genitals. I have been getting a sore throat worrying about this and my nodes in my neck feel a little hard about the size of cashew, but not really swollen. To add, I am a healthy 21 year old girl. He is a 23 year old male, healthy also but drinks excessive amounts of alcohol, which I heard may make you susceptible to sickness.
1.) Do his symptoms that resemble the flu match up with ARS symptoms? Is he missing some symptoms?
2.)Could my lymph nodes be feeling normal but I have just never noticed them before?
3.) If I infected him twice would he have the same symptoms Or would his body have an immunity and not show symptoms just as bad? I didn't know if someone can get the flu twice in a year.
4.) Chances I gave something to him twice from feb. to june?
5.) Would you recommend retesting after a 4 month neg?

Please let me know if I am being completely irrational b/c we all know that our own fears may sound crazy to others.

Thanks anyone for their help.

[inthenickoftime]

it is unfortunate he is experiencing these symptoms...the fact of the matter is people get ill with out without having HIV

You are HIV negative. Really u are, i provided you with plenty of info to support this fact.

You could not transmitt hiv to him if you're negative.

Next, lets assume an HIV women had sex with a man... its very diffiifult for a man to contract HIV through vaginal sex after a few exposures... the doc even said within the last few years only 2 heterosexual men were diagnosed with HIV.

But you are negative so thats al that matters....

You're symptoms are stress related. Stress breaks down you're immune system and makes people more prone to getting ill.

Listen, mayb you should make an appointment with your doctor so you can one on one discuss this situation, and perhaps have another test if you think that will make you feel better. The next test will be NEGATIVE.

I was checking out this other health website... i believe Health 24 something... anyways within their article on HIV it clearly states most people test pos by 4-6 weeks, and 3 months is EXTREMELY rare. That means you and I are negative.

Start thinking of other things... like what you want to do over the summer... things like that... you really need to distract your self from this whole thing.

K well i have to go,  i will be back later.

RELAX  YOUR MIND... go drink a tea or something

[troubled3]

Thank you for your answers that add a lot of facts and info.  It helps me a lot. You are right I need to start planning my summer and forget about it.  I guess I just feel so guilty if I ever hurt him.  I know I did the right thing and got tested, and even to reassure myself, I got tested again at 4 months.  I really really HATE that whole six month window period, even if it is now historical.  

If I got my tests done at LabCorp, that my gyno prescribed a prescription for me, when do you believe they started to use the latest generation of tests?  If I was tested last November and this January, does that mean I got the most recent test available?