You are right; the risk you describe was minor to zero. Most HIV infections from insertive sex--anal or vaginal--occur via the urethra, the penile opening. If a man is uncircumcised, some infections probably occur because of minor trauma to the foreskin and head of hte penis. Anal sex is risky because it is traumatic to the rectum and often there is blood, even if not enough to notice.
People tend to think it takes "just one virus" to catch HIV. Not true. If you aren't exposed to thousands (maybe millions) of virus particles, infection doesn't take. Probably people don't carry enough secretions/virus on their hands to transmit. You have no worries.
I have explained this repeatedly. Please read the forum. The tests perform no differently after high versus low risk exposures. But if you start with an exposure that has only 1 in 10,000 risk of HIV, then a test that picks up 90% of infections (say at 4 weeks) changes that risk to 1 in 100,000. Most of the time, that's good enough. But if you have had an exposure with a 1 in 100 risk (say anal sex with a known HIV infected person), then the same test result still leaves a 1 in 1000 risk that the person caught HIV. In that circumstance, it is desirable to have a test that will pick up 99% of infections--i.e., testing at 8-12 weeks. My advice about testint interval always takes into account not just test performance, but the overall risk sitatuion. The lower the risk, the more reassuring a negative test result.
HHH, MD
These are the last questions I will ask regarding this.
Again, thank you very much.