Consider yourself extremely blessed!! Depending on your fears of HIV, I would use protection with him from now on, you are lucky , but HIV can sill be transmitted with undetectable viral loads, so keep in mind you will be putting yourself at further risk if you continue an ongoing sexual relationship with someone HIV +, especially if its unprotected!!
The undetectable viral load occurred after one month medication. He is in a medication study with a new "Quad" pill, which is a combination of 4 meds which have been proven effective but not manufactured into one pill.
To answer sweetprince, I am certain he did test positive as I went with him. I have also been to the same rapid test site. When you get your results, and they are negative, you are in and out in minutes. He was detained for at least 20 minutes while 4 others came and went to get their responses. When I saw the expression on the woman who came to the waiting area to tell him hIs results were ready I had my first clue (she looked closed to tears) I have taken him to couple of his appointments for medical treatment.
As far as recent infection I tend to think this is not the case. First he said he had been tested within 2 years. The night he got tested they apparently had records of his last test being 4 years ago. This was at a time he was using meth.
I believe he broke up with me to save me from breaking up with him. I have tried to maintain friendship as I still love and care for him. He has a jealous streak which would make it hard for him to see me with anyone else. We are working through this.
This can happen. You are at a lower risk by giving the anal sex, then receiving. Also I suspect by his symptoms that this might have been a more recent infection.
I believe that if you have an AIDS diagnosis that you will not be able to have an undetectable viral load. But if Teak reads this he can either confirm that or tell me I am wrong.
was he lying to you about his test so you can break up with him, or did you actually see a proof of him getting on treatment post his results?
I'm no expert on this, but I'm merely asking a question as having regular unprotected sex means higher the chances of infection rate. But hey, if you're negative 5 months after your last encounter with unprotected encounter with hiv positive partner, you should be very Thankful I would think.
Too bad I'm not even close to 5 months clean mark...my window period just started :-(
Addendum. My partner would always take a through enema prior to intercourse. Would that be a protective factor for me in this case?