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Unprotected oral, protected vaginal and condom issue.
Hello. I'm a 31 year old male from Malaysia and I'll be the first to admit that I visit massage that offers happy endings frequently, but such services I've gotten are usually hand-jobs, ***-jobs and a blow-job once (this was 3 weeks ago, the blow-job was brief, didn't last 30 seconds from what I remember and so far, I've had no discharge or sores/lesions). I'm not that worried about those encounters, as I was tested negative about 2 months ago and such exposures are said to be relatively safe.
However, a few days ago, I saw a new massage parlor at the same area I frequently go to and I was curious, so I decided to have a look. Turns out it's a brothel disguised as a massage parlor which offers full-package sex. Now, I know this is the part I should have turned down and left the place, but my urges took control and I decided to go for it. To make a long story short, I was given unprotected oral and had protected vaginal with her (the place provided condoms), and she helped me shower before and after the session. But here's my main concern;
Before putting on the condom, she gave me a brief oral to use her saliva as lubricant. After a few minutes of protected vaginal, she removed my condom to give me oral, after which, she put on the same condom back on (I'm not too sure if it was reversed, most probably not, just a small possibility) and went back to having vaginal, but stopped after a few seconds (it might have slipped) and said we need a new condom, which she put on me and we continued the vaginal till the end.
Take note this is my first time having vaginal sex, protected, but my main concern is her putting the same condom on me the possibility of it slightly slipping in her vagina. I have read various questions which is similar to mine, but I thought I should ask for myself if there are potential risks of HIV or any other STIs/STDs, as I plan to have a check-up at about the 6th week mark. Thanks.
However, a few days ago, I saw a new massage parlor at the same area I frequently go to and I was curious, so I decided to have a look. Turns out it's a brothel disguised as a massage parlor which offers full-package sex. Now, I know this is the part I should have turned down and left the place, but my urges took control and I decided to go for it. To make a long story short, I was given unprotected oral and had protected vaginal with her (the place provided condoms), and she helped me shower before and after the session. But here's my main concern;
Before putting on the condom, she gave me a brief oral to use her saliva as lubricant. After a few minutes of protected vaginal, she removed my condom to give me oral, after which, she put on the same condom back on (I'm not too sure if it was reversed, most probably not, just a small possibility) and went back to having vaginal, but stopped after a few seconds (it might have slipped) and said we need a new condom, which she put on me and we continued the vaginal till the end.
Take note this is my first time having vaginal sex, protected, but my main concern is her putting the same condom on me the possibility of it slightly slipping in her vagina. I have read various questions which is similar to mine, but I thought I should ask for myself if there are potential risks of HIV or any other STIs/STDs, as I plan to have a check-up at about the 6th week mark. Thanks.
You are safe from HIV so should stop worrying and are so safe that you don't even need to test.
HIV is instantly inactivated in air and also instantly in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from oral, touching HIV or any sexual activity outside the vagina or anus. It doesn't matter if you and they were bleeding or wet with her fluids at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.
Only adult risks are unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal sex or sharing needles that you inject with but you didn't do that so you had no risk. This sentence is all you need to know to protect yourself against HIV.
Even with blood, lactation cuts, rashes, burns etc air and saliva do not allow inactivated virus to infect from oral, touching HIV or any sexual activity outside the vagina or anus. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established so nothing you can add will make it a risk.
HIV is instantly inactivated in air and also instantly in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from oral, touching HIV or any sexual activity outside the vagina or anus. It doesn't matter if you and they were bleeding or wet with her fluids at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.
Only adult risks are unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal sex or sharing needles that you inject with but you didn't do that so you had no risk. This sentence is all you need to know to protect yourself against HIV.
Even with blood, lactation cuts, rashes, burns etc air and saliva do not allow inactivated virus to infect from oral, touching HIV or any sexual activity outside the vagina or anus. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established so nothing you can add will make it a risk.
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Thank you so much. Though at one point, she removed the condom and put back the same condom (I don't think she put it inside-out, but there might be a small possibility) to continue vaginal sex and after a few seconds, she said we should switch condoms, so it gave me the impression either loose or might have slipped. Still no risk in regards to that?
Only the head needs to be protected so it can't slip so much that the head was exposed and stay on. You are safe if you reread the 40 because she didn't change the condom inside her vagina.
Haha, yeah you got a point there. It's just that this is my first time engaging in protected vaginal and the fact that it's a brothel disguising itself as a massage parlor further increases the concern due to the place being shady as hell, giving it an unclean vibe. But thanks for your help. Much appreciated.
@AnxiousNoMore: Hello, sorry to bother you but a friend of mine raised another theory as to why the sex worker asked for a change of condom, besides the possibility of it slipping - it might have broke - so does this make the situation any different? Thanks in advance.
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