Very Worried about HIV!!!

[radioheadhead]

Hi, last week i did something really stupid and out of character for me, it was my birthday and while i was not completely drunk i had had enough, my friend told me about a massage parlour and they all went in, i did not at first but my other friend said he would if i would so we did. So i went in paid £45 had sex with a sex worker at the massage parlour. I think she used Oil for the massage, then i turned over and she started to masturbate me to get me erect, after that she put a condom on my penis i cannot remember if she used oil to masturbate me with or without the condom she may have i'm not sure we began to have sex i can't remember for how long though i can't remember exactly, it wasn't good sex at all, after that she stopped, carried on with her hand with the condom still on, i asked her to carry on having sex she mumbled something, then had sex with me again with the same condom still on, then stopped as i wasn't going to ejaculate, she then lay on her back and i asked if we could try that way, as before she was facing the opposite way to me on top of me i perhaps thrusted maybe once or twice maybe not even that then i said i'd like to stop, i did not ejaculate, and she did not orgasm either to my knowledge. After the act, i removed the condom myself half way, i saw nothing out of the ordinary apart from my penis going down however being slightly drunk i may have missed a rip or something then she pulled it off completely we stood up she wiped her vagina with a tissue, then i think with a different tissue she wiped the end of my penis.
My worries are if she used an oil based lubricant to make me erect could the condom have ripped or been damaged. I was kind of drunk I'm pretty sure it did not but can never be 100% that it was not ripped.
I think she was quite dry i cant remember exactly but why did she wipe her vagina and why if i did not ejaculate did she wipe the end of my penis.
This event would have happened perhaps 1, 2 or 3 in the morning of Sunday 9th August. However on the Monday evening so the 10th i had a sore throat, then the day after i developed a tickly cough producing phlegm, the sore throat went but the cough remained, i had 2 or 3 nights were i woke up quite warm and sweaty not drenched, those were both while sharing a bed with someone not in my own room, i remember feeling not very unwell but slightly unwell not to the point i could not function, aswell it hurt me when i swallowed for a day then it went. I'm terrified i may have caught HIV. Please Help!!!!!!

[LIZZIE LOU]

you would have known if the condom had failed...it's catastrophic and not something you have to guess about.  your penis would have been exposed.

using oil based lube weakens the integrity of a condom and can cause it to rupture.  doesnt mean it happens every time or happened to you.  obviously your condom was intact.

PROTECTED SEX = NO RISK

testing is not needed

[radioheadhead]

what about the symptons though?

[mike_no]

Symptoms don't mean a thing. Look around there are hundreds of posters here who talk about every darn symptom the  book reads but in the end, 12 week result's negative. They do the woo hoo song, write a good bye and a thank you note.  

[radioheadhead]

Is it possible it did not rip but disintegrate, or does oil lubricant cause it to disintegrate

[Teak]

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[LIZZIE LOU]

YOUR WORDS:  "i removed the condom myself half way, i saw nothing out of the ordinary "

dont try and make something out of nothing...a risk when you didnt have one.

you have been advised that you had condom protected sex and at no time were you at risk of contracting hiv.

now move on...

[radioheadhead]

I also said i had had a drink, i may have missed something

[LIZZIE LOU]

you were sober enough to remember every other detail but not this one?  c'mon...this is your anxiety talking.

protected sex = no risk

[radioheadhead]

what if when she masturbated me the oil caused it to weaken, then she had sex with me which weakened it further but i did not notice, i'm only speculating she may have used an oil based lubricant i cant remember, nor did i actually see, i just remember smelling what i thought was baby oil, when she massaged me?

[LIZZIE LOU]

YOU took the freaking condom off ! ! !  YOU saw that it looked ok ! ! !

what you are not understanding is that it doesnt matter if it "weakened" as long as it didnt rupture...AND IT DIDNT.

now move along...there is nothing more to discuss about your protected sex.

[radioheadhead]

i dont understand why she wiped the end of my penis if no fluids were transferred

[Vance2335]

go ask her then. your thinking way too much of this.

[Teak]

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[radioheadhead]

really?

[LIZZIE LOU]

MOVE ON BEFORE YOU GET YOURSELF REPORTED ! ! !