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Was I at Risk?
Hello i beg for your help. Here's my story.
I was separated from my wife for about two years, during those two years I had sexual contact with a few girls i ALWAYS used protection (Condom).
What has me going crazy is the following :
Last year around March of 2012 I performed UNPROTECTED Oral sex on a woman And protected vaginal with her .
And in june 2012 I went to Mexico for vacation and for the first time ever I received "Unprotected"oral sex from a woman (a call girl) she also kept on licking my anus and I would push her away but she kept on for a few more times, then had PROTECTED vaginal sex for about two minutes she then took off the condom and continued performing oral sex on me till I finished.
I got very scared because that same day a few hours later I started getting very sick got diarreah and felt chills on my body and the diarrhea continued for about a week, i hadn't been to Mexico for the past 7 years and I ate a lot during the prior days to this event all kinds of street food that I usually don't have here in the US So I tought I had a stomach virus for all the food I ate in a different country and I got on line and found places like this where it says that HIV it's almost zero risk through oral sex. So that calmed me Down a lot.
While in Mexico before the event I just typed above I received oral sex from another call girl but what worries me about that episode is that the condom she used was opened already when she put it on me at first I refused but she said it was her last one and that she had just opened it, she showed me how it was completely rolled and according to her it was new she had just opened the wrapper.
The condom seemed new and perfectly rolled inside the wrapper but wrapper opened.
I want to mention that I never had any symptom of any STD
I tested NEGATIVE for HIV about two weeks after for STD AND HIV but I knew those exams could not be conclusive but some how it made me feel confident and stopped thinking about it for a while, but in November last year I recovered my wife and family and the guilt started to eat me up for all the stuff I did while I wasn't with them I ended up telling my wife about this things I did and luckily she accepted me back anyways, I have been good to her and my family ever since then.
In May of 2013 (11months) after this unprotected oral sex received and opened condom incident I got tested with oraquick home test and tested NEGATIVE I actually bought 3 kits in 2 days because I wanted to make usre I followed the instructions exactly as I was supposed to all three were NEGATIVE At 11 months post exposure I also got my wife to take a test and of course came back NEGATIVE as well.
In October (16months after exposure ) I bought another oraquick at home and also was negative and I promised my wife I would stop worrying about this and spending money in testing but some how I Can not get this out of my head and I get alarmed when I get a cold or headaches or a small rash a small lump on groing anything makes me paranoid and go to the doctor and they tell me I have nothing please a doctor or experts in here please explain if I was ever at any type of risk and if all the testing I did as well as my wife even though it wasn't blood test was more than enough to forget about this thing and live happy and enjoy my beautiful family I've talked to priests and even doctors that just give me anxiety pills but I have not found a single solid answer to make me stop this horrible fear
I deeply apologize for this loong post but I feel if you read it carefully and see my sexual history during those years I can get a definite answer
Thanks so much for your help
I was separated from my wife for about two years, during those two years I had sexual contact with a few girls i ALWAYS used protection (Condom).
What has me going crazy is the following :
Last year around March of 2012 I performed UNPROTECTED Oral sex on a woman And protected vaginal with her .
And in june 2012 I went to Mexico for vacation and for the first time ever I received "Unprotected"oral sex from a woman (a call girl) she also kept on licking my anus and I would push her away but she kept on for a few more times, then had PROTECTED vaginal sex for about two minutes she then took off the condom and continued performing oral sex on me till I finished.
I got very scared because that same day a few hours later I started getting very sick got diarreah and felt chills on my body and the diarrhea continued for about a week, i hadn't been to Mexico for the past 7 years and I ate a lot during the prior days to this event all kinds of street food that I usually don't have here in the US So I tought I had a stomach virus for all the food I ate in a different country and I got on line and found places like this where it says that HIV it's almost zero risk through oral sex. So that calmed me Down a lot.
While in Mexico before the event I just typed above I received oral sex from another call girl but what worries me about that episode is that the condom she used was opened already when she put it on me at first I refused but she said it was her last one and that she had just opened it, she showed me how it was completely rolled and according to her it was new she had just opened the wrapper.
The condom seemed new and perfectly rolled inside the wrapper but wrapper opened.
I want to mention that I never had any symptom of any STD
I tested NEGATIVE for HIV about two weeks after for STD AND HIV but I knew those exams could not be conclusive but some how it made me feel confident and stopped thinking about it for a while, but in November last year I recovered my wife and family and the guilt started to eat me up for all the stuff I did while I wasn't with them I ended up telling my wife about this things I did and luckily she accepted me back anyways, I have been good to her and my family ever since then.
In May of 2013 (11months) after this unprotected oral sex received and opened condom incident I got tested with oraquick home test and tested NEGATIVE I actually bought 3 kits in 2 days because I wanted to make usre I followed the instructions exactly as I was supposed to all three were NEGATIVE At 11 months post exposure I also got my wife to take a test and of course came back NEGATIVE as well.
In October (16months after exposure ) I bought another oraquick at home and also was negative and I promised my wife I would stop worrying about this and spending money in testing but some how I Can not get this out of my head and I get alarmed when I get a cold or headaches or a small rash a small lump on groing anything makes me paranoid and go to the doctor and they tell me I have nothing please a doctor or experts in here please explain if I was ever at any type of risk and if all the testing I did as well as my wife even though it wasn't blood test was more than enough to forget about this thing and live happy and enjoy my beautiful family I've talked to priests and even doctors that just give me anxiety pills but I have not found a single solid answer to make me stop this horrible fear
I deeply apologize for this loong post but I feel if you read it carefully and see my sexual history during those years I can get a definite answer
Thanks so much for your help
Oh and something important I need to know is that if STD screening would be recommended for me I or my wife have not had any type is symptoms and like I said above it has been about 18 months now since the las time I was with any other woman other than my wife I ask this because I wasted a large sum of money in testing for HIV and doctors visits that I don't want to spend no more of this is not necessary again I have t had no symptoms except a little lump that I felt on my groin but the doctor said it wasn't anything to be worried about and that it felt normal to him
Teak
I know I'm being very annoying but if you or any one else can answer this I will greatly appreciate it
Is Oraquick HIV antibody test at home as reliable and conclusive as a blood test at 11 and 16 months past exposure
I promise this is my last question
I know I'm being very annoying but if you or any one else can answer this I will greatly appreciate it
Is Oraquick HIV antibody test at home as reliable and conclusive as a blood test at 11 and 16 months past exposure
I promise this is my last question
Based on what you posted you were never exposed to the virus....i.e oral sex and condom protected vaginal.
Your negative Oraquick was a waste of money but you went ahead and tested anyway......totally understandable. If it makes you feel better , it proves beyond any doubt that you did not get infected.
Your negative Oraquick was a waste of money but you went ahead and tested anyway......totally understandable. If it makes you feel better , it proves beyond any doubt that you did not get infected.
Teak.
I appreciate you answering but I beg you to please answer this question I have always been so careful since my teenage years that sometimes after having sex I would even before throwing away the condoms I would put water in them to make sure there was no leaks.
All I was really concerned about was indeed unprotected sex and that once other episode where the condom was opened but rolled.
But let's just say that a condom at one point broke which I'm sure it never happend to me, will the oraquick testing I did at 11 months and 16 months and my wife's 11 month tea with also oraquick HIV kit at home are this tests completely reliable and no blood work would be any different at this time?
I appreciate you answering but I beg you to please answer this question I have always been so careful since my teenage years that sometimes after having sex I would even before throwing away the condoms I would put water in them to make sure there was no leaks.
All I was really concerned about was indeed unprotected sex and that once other episode where the condom was opened but rolled.
But let's just say that a condom at one point broke which I'm sure it never happend to me, will the oraquick testing I did at 11 months and 16 months and my wife's 11 month tea with also oraquick HIV kit at home are this tests completely reliable and no blood work would be any different at this time?
You didn't have a minimal exposure, you didn't have an exposure at all and you never needed testing for HIV.
Thanks for the super fast reply, so based on my tests done at 11 months and at 16 months after the minimal exposure I had ate those test 100% reliable even though they were not blood tests? I did make sure I followed the instructions and did more than one test the reassure as I mentioned earlier
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