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Worried Sick ! Do i have HIV ???
Hello everyone and any doctors reading this. Thank you in advance fro your time and answers. I am currently a 32 year old male. I am married with 2 young children. I love my wife alot how ever, i beleive i have made a grave mistake in more ways then one. About 6 to 7 weeks ago i had a gay ( bi-sexual ) male GIVE me oral sex. I thought at the momoent i might give it a try. But just as he was starting to give me a ** a started to gage and throw up from the shear thought of cheating on my lovely family and my wife. I also realized i am NOT gay OR bi-sexual. The oral sex lasted all of about 30-45 seconds. Seriously. No more then that , if even that. And ever sense that night i have been worried about dying at a young age from HIV and leaving my wife and 2 children behind. I do not know if the person that gave me a ** was or was not hiv + or negative. I am just guessing and worrying for myself and family. I have seen 7 or 8 doctors. All of the doctors say my chances of contracting the hiv virus are NEXT to 0. How ever some of them still say get tested SOLLY to EASE my own mind. Sense Lately i have been having panic and anxiety attacks. I have shown no symptoms to date sense the expected exposure. It happened on June the 19th. All though i have VERY MILD pain in my neck in what seems to be around where my lymph nodes on the left side would be as well as some VERY MILD arm pit pain on the left side also. OF course these symtonms surfaced after i read on the net about the symtns of hiv !! I have had the doctors look at my nodes and they say they arent even swollen at all.
And lastly...... I will add that i have been sent for HIV testing by my family doctor. I was at about the 4 weeks and 3 day mark when they pulled the blood out of me. The test for HIV 1 and HIV 2 came back negative. However i have been put on meds for panic and anxiety attacks due to my tottal lack of control to be able to function on a daily basis anymore. I plan on getting tested one last time in the next week or so. Sense i am now at about 6-7 weeks sense the ordel..... All the doctors have told me that most people will test positive for HIV at 4 weeks if they have the Virus. BARING ANY UN-FORSEEN underlying medical reasons slowing down the build up of HIV antibodies.
So the doctors have told me to not worry and say i DO NOT have HIV based on the limitied exposure. Unknown health of the person that gave me the ** and that i testes NEGATIVE they now tell me to rest easily and say they are even more confident that if i re-test i will come up NEGATIVE again !!
ANY thoughts from anyone ?? Sorry for the long post !! I am WORRIED sick !!
And lastly...... I will add that i have been sent for HIV testing by my family doctor. I was at about the 4 weeks and 3 day mark when they pulled the blood out of me. The test for HIV 1 and HIV 2 came back negative. However i have been put on meds for panic and anxiety attacks due to my tottal lack of control to be able to function on a daily basis anymore. I plan on getting tested one last time in the next week or so. Sense i am now at about 6-7 weeks sense the ordel..... All the doctors have told me that most people will test positive for HIV at 4 weeks if they have the Virus. BARING ANY UN-FORSEEN underlying medical reasons slowing down the build up of HIV antibodies.
So the doctors have told me to not worry and say i DO NOT have HIV based on the limitied exposure. Unknown health of the person that gave me the ** and that i testes NEGATIVE they now tell me to rest easily and say they are even more confident that if i re-test i will come up NEGATIVE again !!
ANY thoughts from anyone ?? Sorry for the long post !! I am WORRIED sick !!
Oral sex is NOT worth worrying about and you should accept your 4 week negative result as proof that you do not have HIV.
Please do not post here anymore- take any further concerns to your mental health professional.
Please do not post here anymore- take any further concerns to your mental health professional.
Can someone help me out ?? I know Teak tells me to move on and there was NO RISK !!! But i just need alittle more help here !!
First off , Let me say thank you for your answers. Secondly. Let me say i am not trying to go on and on and fill your servers with repeated questions. I just have a few concerns i want /need answered.
The oral sex was unprotected ! ( I know stupid with all of todays knowledge )
I tested negative at 4 weeks and 3 days ( Thats great news all doc's tell me ) because most people will test positive at 3-4 weeks if they truley have hiv. Not all, But alot . I tested Negative. Thank God !!!
Teak : You say that Oral is not a risk . Okay So then again , after 4 weeks and 3 days negative am i likely to see a negative at 7-8 weeks. And should that be a wrap on the whole HIV ordel for myself ?? Sense at that piont it would be 2 and a half mounths. Like i said. I'm just looking for a few answers and alittle understanding with the pressure i feel and carry everyday from my mistake.
And Lastly, Yes, i have been reffered to a mental proffesional from my family doctor. My first meeting is in 3 day !
Thank You for your help and great knowledge !
The oral sex was unprotected ! ( I know stupid with all of todays knowledge )
I tested negative at 4 weeks and 3 days ( Thats great news all doc's tell me ) because most people will test positive at 3-4 weeks if they truley have hiv. Not all, But alot . I tested Negative. Thank God !!!
Teak : You say that Oral is not a risk . Okay So then again , after 4 weeks and 3 days negative am i likely to see a negative at 7-8 weeks. And should that be a wrap on the whole HIV ordel for myself ?? Sense at that piont it would be 2 and a half mounths. Like i said. I'm just looking for a few answers and alittle understanding with the pressure i feel and carry everyday from my mistake.
And Lastly, Yes, i have been reffered to a mental proffesional from my family doctor. My first meeting is in 3 day !
Thank You for your help and great knowledge !
I have read some of the posts on this site. Not all of them by any means. But i have read ALOT in genearl about HIV. Sometimes i feel like i have read so much on HIV and Aids that i feel like an expert. Obviously i am not. I have just read alot it feels like my brain is FULL of HIV info.
What i did that night was unacceptable to have done to both my wife and my family. And i don't understand Teak why i NEVER had ANY risk ?? So let me as you this then Teak. If i re-test next week ( 7 - 8 weeks ) .. Would you expect to see a negative result ?
What i did that night was unacceptable to have done to both my wife and my family. And i don't understand Teak why i NEVER had ANY risk ?? So let me as you this then Teak. If i re-test next week ( 7 - 8 weeks ) .. Would you expect to see a negative result ?
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