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Worried about Partner

Okay guys I am back. I recently met this guy that I like. He is from Nigeria and so I asked him about an AIDS test (says as an immigrant you have to take one so-dunno if thats true) he said he took one in January but it turned out to be in November. He showed me the paper work and it said negative. So we decided not to use condoms. After the first time we had sex he was FREAKED out by the fact we didnt use a condom and he kept questioning about was I sure. So, naturally I showed him my paper work and he was okay. Then he asked me when was the last time I had unprotected sex I said once since my test with a guy who also took the test at the same time. He said are you sure did you see his papers. Now, I am questioning his status because he lies about so many things. He lies about his age turns out he is three years younger than me, money, girls...could he could be lying about his status. Or is it just my anxiety...I need prayer. Seriously. I dunno what are my chances that he is lying or his papers are fake??
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Thanks for making me feel like I am freaking uneccesarily. You know, I think I think his papers are fake becausee I tend to believe that everyone in Africa has AIDS and that he would somehow lie. I dunno but I appreciate you making me really take a look at the situation and realizing more than likely he is negative and I really need to see a doctor for this anxiety...its unreal!
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glad to hear that you are doing ok, but not glad to see you back in this vicious ww cycle.i seriously doubt that even a compulsive liar would lie about their status. your going to be ok. i agree, you seriously trippin.
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It seems unlikely that he could get into a developed country coming from Africa without a test but i might be wrong. However as the post before says you should not be concerned about his status just yours. Take a test 6 weeks after exposure and make sure you should always use condoms unless you know the person well and are sure they are safe.
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I am asking people to asses my LIKELYHOOD of him having something or if I am just trippin'. And I am worried of his status because it affects mine.
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I agree that I shouldnt talk to him. I am asking what are the chances that he has something...by the way he is a college student!
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No way to access a third party's risk as he is the only one that knows what he has done.  
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I was thinking that...I mean can people even make false papers. And if he had it already I was thinking why would he be freaking out ya know. I guess I am thinking EVERYONE in africa has aids and really as I was reading its mostly in S. Africa. I dunno more comments are appreciated!  By the way he says he hasnt had unportected sex since he took the test except with me and thats why he was freaking.
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Who here can say that he had fake papers? No one.

OK, he had papers, good for him. Now, the question is this: what are you so worried about? He had papers. Do you not believe them? If not, why not?

If you don't believe that he is really HIV negative, then first, cut him off. Second, get a test at 6 weeks and find out what your status is. I am sure, if you have been here a while, you understand that some think that only a 13 week negative is truly conclusive. To that I say, read what the doctor has to say, and then make up your own mind. You have to make up your own mind about what you feel comfortable with, anyway.

In the end, how strong is this relationship anyway? You are worried that he is telling you the truth. And telling you the truth about something as important about his HIV status.

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You should be worried about your actions... Not so much his.  If he is a liar, why are you wasting your time?  Wait until 6 weeks and test, in the mean time use protection.
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