am i at risk?

[worriedcrazy123]

Dear doctor,

My boyfriend and I have been in a monogamous relationship for 3 years. We recently both had affairs. His was 3 months ago and mine 1 month ago. We both had protected sex with another person. However, he recently found out he had herpes. Since the affairs we have had unprotected sex with each other. I have no symptoms of herpes but assume I have it as well. We are both extremely worried about hiv?? Almost to the point we are assuming we have it. Are we at risk? During my affair, I performed oral sex – could that be where the herpes came from? If so could I have got hiv from that and then passed it on to my boyfriend? We did get tested and are waiting for the results……this is taken over our lives and we unable to even sleep at night? Is it anxiety or do you think we may have put our lives at risk??

[worriedcrazy123]

It is hard not to worry. ..especailly since he now has herpes. I cant help but think that if it was possible to get herpes from protected sex then it would be just as easy to get hiv. I keep replaying everything in my mind. Even though I had protected sex I am worried about the foreplay....could I get infected by precum prior to the condom being put on?

[worriedcrazy123]

No he did not insert his penis in me prior to wearing the condom. I still can't understand how herpes was caught??? Also I keep hearing there is a chance you can hiv from oral sex....has that been proven? has there been any cases of people catching hiv from oral sex?

[boondock]

he wasn't completely honest.  or he's had the herpes for a while and its been dormant.  but he didn't herpes from protected sex and you can't get herpes from protected sex.