are condom based lubricants risky to use on condoms, do they cause breakages.

when i had protected sex with a csw, she used a liquid based lubricant on the condom, though i couldnt erect throughout sex attemp, i feared later that it might have breakage after i read online that liquid and oil based condom lubricants cause condoms to break during sex. infact, though i couldnt say "****" her at all due to erection dysfunction, she changed the 1st condom and replaced it with a new one. 1st didnt break. she put oil based condom lubricant on the tip of it and claimed it will aid me to penetrate without erection, though she aided me with her hands for me to penetrate her slightly. after about 5 to 7mins i was tired because it was the missionary style through out n felt pains in my waist so i ended it. i still sufferd erection dysfunction at second attempt too. she took the condom of without any breakage as she and i saw it. the condom still had oil on its surface. after taking condom off i saw some salivry-like fluid on my glands which i couldnt tell whether it was precum or oil or vagina fluid even though she didnt cum or get wet. i feel anxious since then and have been afraid of possible infection though i felt sick 5 days later n lab test showd i had malaria parasite in my blood n not hiv. my fear stems from the fact that i feel some one-on- one irritation on skin without any rash or bumps after malaria treatment. please help me with ur  truthful ?concerns

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