beginner oral sex 101

I'm  filled  with insecurity that questioned my mind everyday therefore before any foolish action happens due my ignorance i decided to ask these following things:

-does oral sex without using condom is safe ( i know a lot  of people does say is not safe but i read some of the archive in here says that chances are 1 in a 10.000) ? so which one is more credible ? if i happen to use trusted provider whether through agencies or independent?

-is  it true that i heard people say as long as there are no bleeding on manhood area it is safe to do a blowie...without condom?

-recently, when i brush my teeth usually the gum is  bleeding later i found out that caused by tartar teeth
(( only when i brush my teeth)) or if i eat semi hard object such as apple that hasn't been cut

does it increases my chances to get std or hiv if i do french kissing and doing oral to the vaginal area?

-i've seen many people in the club meeting and if there are any romanced involved they do french kissing does that safe ? if so why doing french kiss with escort are strictly forbidden?

-If the women achieve orgasm and i happen to did oral sex with her plus her vaginal water get into my mouth
is it going to be dangerous? to get std and hiv?

-are there any std shots? do i need to get one  before i do some sex and oral sex?

-if i happens to have mold allergies, does it safe to play sex and oral sex ?

- are there any safe sex tips to decrease my insecurity about hiv, std, herpes, etc....



thanks

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Welcome to t he Forum.  I'll do my best to answer your questions.  Please realize that in science exceptions do occur so that if the odds of something at 1 in a million and you are the one, then the others really don't matter, do they. I say this not to frighten you but to try to put things in perspective and to allow you to go on to make informed decisions.  

Also, before I address your specific questions, remember as well that your chances of getting HIV are a function of whether or not your partner has HIV. If they don't then nothing to worry about.  I say this to you as part of my general encouragement to ask you partners of their status and to make decisions appropriately.  While not everyone tells the truth, most people do.  Now on to your questions>

The quoted figure for HIV risk, if one has oral sex with an infected partner is less than 1 in 10,000 and, in my estimation that is too high. Some experts state there is no risk at all from oral sex.  Neither of us on this site have ever seen or reading the medical literature of a convincing instance in which HIV was passed by oral sex.  This includes by all of the people who had gum disease such as you describe, etc.

there is no risk any sort from kissing, french kissing etc.  

There are no STD shots per se.

Your mold allergies have nothing to do with HIV risk.

Hope these comment help.  Please be safe in your sex.  EWH

[lucian_jr]

doc i forgot to ask that if i shave my groin area and having a bumps or blister, pimple

how long should i wait before doing intercourse and oral?

does it going to increase my chance to have std and hiv if i have sex when i  have a blister and bumps on my groin area )

by the way just to make it clear again.. french kiss does not hv any risk not even oral gonorrhea??  and as long as there isnt any bleed oral sex is fine?? ( i mean when a girl do oral to men penises without condom)

[Edward W Hook, MD]

While shaving might theoretically increase a person's risk for dermatological STDs (like herpes, HPV, etc and as poosied to mucosal STDs like gonorrhea or chlamydia), the fact is that there are no cases in which this has been shown to increase risk.  While I fali to see the appeal of shavng your groin, it does no harm and does not increase your risk, even if you shave to close and have scrapes becasue of it.

No need to repeat my answer about kissing, including French kissing, it won't change.  Read above.  EWH

[Edward W Hook, MD]

Your questions have been delted. They are unrelated to your original question.  Furthermore, this Forum is the wrong place to seek assistance in whether you are gay or not.  Take care.  EWH

[lucian_jr]

opps my apologize doc.... anyway thx