can anyone help me?

hi everyone, this is my first time on this forum and i was hoping someone could help me.

i engaged in oral sex and deep kissing with a gay man.  i do not know if he was infected but i do know he has a lot of unprotected sex and i have been really paranoid ever since.

at 3 weeks, i had a food-poisoning type illness.  went to bed feeling chills and abdominal pain, woke up 4 hours later feeling incredibly nauseous and vomitted about 10 times over a period of 4 hours. afterward, felt nauseous with a headache all day, and measured a 102F fever.  the next morning felt much better, normal temperature.  that night, however, i still had headache and measured a temperature of 100F.  by day 3 i felt entirely better with no fever.  i thought it couldnt be ars because it was so short, but a few days later i noticed a swollen lymph node in the front of my neck.  doctor confirmed it was swollen but only found one, and said it wasnt anything "too dramatic".  he also did a standard blood count.  the lymph node has been swollen for about 4 weeks now, and i have been feeling new ones all over the place, although that could just be me going crazy. my blood test results came back normal, except for my basophil count which was abnormally high.  that had me freaking out.  i dont know if a high basophil count is related to hiv.  i know it is related to allergies, but i dont have any allergies that i know of.

[dobber21]

Hi there,
I'm sorry you're having a hard time and I understand your anxieties. Deep kissing is not a risk for HIV infection. Receptive oral sex is a very, very, very, very low risk for HIV.

I'm not sure but if you were infected, I imagine your White Blood Cells would have been elevated. However, I know that the only way to know your HIV status is to test. Have a standalone antibody test at 6 weeks. It will undoubtedly be negative. Symptoms mean nothing. Nothing.

Let us know how the test goes:)

[o_g]

i am wondering if WBC is high in viral infections or bacterial infections. Do you have any insight if HIV causes high WBC because to be honest my doctor daid otherwise and she simply concluded high WBC normally is a result of bacterial infection. Do let me know??

[monkeyflower]

Kissing is no risk. Oral sex is an incredibly, vanishingly small risk--like 1 in 10,000 for giving and 1 in 20,000 for receiving--and those are only *theoretical* numbers. Think it through. Everyone kisses. Pretty much everyone has unprotected oral. If HIV through those things were even a tiny risk, EVERYONE would be infected by now. Relax. Get tested, just because you're so freaked, but don't stress out in the meantime.

[dobber21]

I'm not a doctor. I really can't answer that question, I'm sorry