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im scared i may have hiv
okay so here it goes.
i am an 18 year old female. about a year and half ago i had unprotected sex with a guy on my holiday in mexico. and i knew him so i thought i knew he didnt have anything. and i was on the pill so i wasnt worried about anything.i was very drunk and can not remember much of it but i do know we were in the room for about an hour and he was having some difficulties and he got hard but then went limp, he didnt *** and as far as i know he didnt have any pre-*** either but i cant be sure. but we had vaginal,oral and anal sex. and i didnt think anything of it then but now a year and a half later i live in scotland and have a boyfriend that i got pretty much after the holiday and have been with him ever since and we have had unprotected sex many times. and a week ago i got a phone call fromt he guy i was with in mexico and since my spanish is a little bit rusty and i dont know any medical terms in spanish, i couldnt understand what he said he had. but he said he had something and that he may have had it while we were together aswell so he was letting me know. but now i am soooooo worried.....
what are the chances if he is HIV positive and that even though he didnt *** in me could i still have got it? what are the chances his pre-*** gave me HIV? what about in the anal position?would pre-*** have given me HIV while we were doing it in the anal position?
i have some of the symptoms such as a swollen lymph node behind my left ear and fatigue and depression but i got that even before i started having sex.so i dont know. and i used to live in california and never really got sick.but now i live in scotland i seem to get the flu quite a lot..but i think the reason i have the flu a lot more here then in california is because scotland is very cold and im not used to it.please tell me what you think.... PLEASE!
i am getting a HIV test taken soon, but i am so scared because im having serious anxiety about this and i cant stop thinking about it. and im not only worried about myself, but my boyfriend. i dont want to tell him until i have an answer for sure. but im sooo scared. so if someone could please help me out and answer my questions to put my mind at a little bit of ease until i go for my appointment.
i am an 18 year old female. about a year and half ago i had unprotected sex with a guy on my holiday in mexico. and i knew him so i thought i knew he didnt have anything. and i was on the pill so i wasnt worried about anything.i was very drunk and can not remember much of it but i do know we were in the room for about an hour and he was having some difficulties and he got hard but then went limp, he didnt *** and as far as i know he didnt have any pre-*** either but i cant be sure. but we had vaginal,oral and anal sex. and i didnt think anything of it then but now a year and a half later i live in scotland and have a boyfriend that i got pretty much after the holiday and have been with him ever since and we have had unprotected sex many times. and a week ago i got a phone call fromt he guy i was with in mexico and since my spanish is a little bit rusty and i dont know any medical terms in spanish, i couldnt understand what he said he had. but he said he had something and that he may have had it while we were together aswell so he was letting me know. but now i am soooooo worried.....
what are the chances if he is HIV positive and that even though he didnt *** in me could i still have got it? what are the chances his pre-*** gave me HIV? what about in the anal position?would pre-*** have given me HIV while we were doing it in the anal position?
i have some of the symptoms such as a swollen lymph node behind my left ear and fatigue and depression but i got that even before i started having sex.so i dont know. and i used to live in california and never really got sick.but now i live in scotland i seem to get the flu quite a lot..but i think the reason i have the flu a lot more here then in california is because scotland is very cold and im not used to it.please tell me what you think.... PLEASE!
i am getting a HIV test taken soon, but i am so scared because im having serious anxiety about this and i cant stop thinking about it. and im not only worried about myself, but my boyfriend. i dont want to tell him until i have an answer for sure. but im sooo scared. so if someone could please help me out and answer my questions to put my mind at a little bit of ease until i go for my appointment.
yeah i see what your saying.
thanks.
though what i was saying is that i cant tell if what i been having is symptoms or not because a lot of them i been having before i even started having sex.
swollen lymph node or gland behind my left ear[had it as a child, also told its probably because of my allergys and antibotics]
fatigue.
i also suffer from depression that i had as a child.
i just recently had what a doctor called a viral infection[which worries me because i read that HIV symptoms are often confused for a viral infection] and had a very upset stomach a fever and diarrhea that lasted for a couple of days.
i get the flu or seem to have the flu quite a lot aswell[but i think that may be because i moved from a hot place like california to a much colder one,scotland.
and a few months after i got back from mexico i got sick with what was called a viral infection aswell, it really upset my asthma with a violent cough and was sick for quite a few days ..
thanks.
though what i was saying is that i cant tell if what i been having is symptoms or not because a lot of them i been having before i even started having sex.
swollen lymph node or gland behind my left ear[had it as a child, also told its probably because of my allergys and antibotics]
fatigue.
i also suffer from depression that i had as a child.
i just recently had what a doctor called a viral infection[which worries me because i read that HIV symptoms are often confused for a viral infection] and had a very upset stomach a fever and diarrhea that lasted for a couple of days.
i get the flu or seem to have the flu quite a lot aswell[but i think that may be because i moved from a hot place like california to a much colder one,scotland.
and a few months after i got back from mexico i got sick with what was called a viral infection aswell, it really upset my asthma with a violent cough and was sick for quite a few days ..
do you really think odds are inmy favor? or are you just saying that to calm me down?
thanks for your help.
[[ i may come up with more questions for you.]]
but for now i feel alittle bit more at ease. although i have to admit the thought wont be out of my head until i do get the test results. cheers.
thanks for your help.
[[ i may come up with more questions for you.]]
but for now i feel alittle bit more at ease. although i have to admit the thought wont be out of my head until i do get the test results. cheers.
i know your being honest, and you cant really tell me whats going on since i need the test.
but even after my test the woman on the phone says it will take 2 weeks to get the results back. if i ask for a rapid test, do they have to give it to me?
but even after my test the woman on the phone says it will take 2 weeks to get the results back. if i ask for a rapid test, do they have to give it to me?
so me being a female my risk for aquiring HIV from pre-*** during vaginal sex is 1in 1000?
and 1 and 200 for anal?
since i have not had a lot of partners either is it lower?
(( i mean i dont go around having unprotected sex with people all the time.... this was a one off and i knew the guy and he was supposedly safe at the time [and at the time my only concern was geting pregnant, & i was on the pill] but now hes telling me he MIGHT have been infected with somthing while we were together.....but it was only once... imnot saying it doesnt take only one time.. but the chances are slimmer... right? my advice to everyone on this site is no matter how much you think you know someone ALWAYS USE protection!!! until you both can confirm that you are free of everything...go to the clinic together for gods sake!!!))
arnt people who have mulitple parnters at greater risk? then me and just one?
[[[sorry if m pestering all you guyz... its my nerves...]]]
and 1 and 200 for anal?
since i have not had a lot of partners either is it lower?
(( i mean i dont go around having unprotected sex with people all the time.... this was a one off and i knew the guy and he was supposedly safe at the time [and at the time my only concern was geting pregnant, & i was on the pill] but now hes telling me he MIGHT have been infected with somthing while we were together.....but it was only once... imnot saying it doesnt take only one time.. but the chances are slimmer... right? my advice to everyone on this site is no matter how much you think you know someone ALWAYS USE protection!!! until you both can confirm that you are free of everything...go to the clinic together for gods sake!!!))
arnt people who have mulitple parnters at greater risk? then me and just one?
[[[sorry if m pestering all you guyz... its my nerves...]]]
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