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in october i let a man i know perform oral sex on me, i am also male, i was worried over hiv so got tested thru lab elisa test at 8 weeks and was neg, still was worried so i had a point of care test using insti 1/2 at 15 weeks and again at 16 weeks, the nurse pricked my finger and did her thing, one dot for neg is wat i got both at 15 and 16 weeks am i conclusively negative, plz im so worried.
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Thanks ur posr made me feel a lil bit better im glad someone responded before i went to bed so now i dont just have what the other guy wrote so again thanks it means more than u no. How did u get thru ur scare and how did u start believing the tests. I know for a fact that if they thought for a sec they wouldnt let me walk out the door. So thanks but i also wanna hear from teak. I dunno why but i take what he says to heart even tho he can be real direct.
Yes your fine testing at 3 is conclusive so at 5 months. Your golden! You should be able to sleep tight! And I have wisdom on this. I was in you position once
You were 100% negative at 3months,you wasted 2months of your life worrying for nothing. You need to let this go otherwise you might be testing for the rest of your life-Not good.
Thanks for the post i appreciat it. I just want teak to come on n tell me after testing at 5 months means im 100% neg or anyone with any wisedom on this topic n can put my mind at ease n tell me that testing at 5 months means im 100% a ok
teak all i wanted to hear from some of the moderators and experts that i am 100% negative and that i can go on with my life, i wanted to hear that. thats all im asking from u teak, u have so much knowledge about hiv n u know about this, so am i teak 100% clean n negative, if someone can please tell me that i will quit, and take sometime away from this site. plz. so being i got tested negative at 5 months from the oral and 10 months from the time i actually had a risk with a person who was hiv+ which i didnt no he was until i got the call, it was unprotected, u can tell me i am a 100% neg, if u TEAK can tell me that then i will make every attempt to move on, plz n thanks teak
How many times do you have to be told. There is no need for us to keep going over and over with you the same questions.
All i wanted was some reassurance n encouragement just thay stupid warning thing about?ing a conclusive result a lil compassion would be nice thank u very much sometimes those comments can make a persons anxiety worse. So show a lil heart plz i no u all hear it over n over again but u come on to comment n help well i didnt get no help from ur post
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plz someone respond, plz someone give some pointers on how to get thru this and how they did it.im seeing a counselor and a pyciatrist and my family doc, i have talked to the people at the std clinic here where i am from and and 2 other nurses from another clinic in another city that specialize in hiv and i have spoken to my doc and they all told me i am fine, and that i tested beyond the window period and that i am 100% clean, why cant i believe it, can someone who actually went thru a scare like i did with an actual hiv + person and got tested after finding out and actually got thru this, please someone answer me and give me some pointers on how to get past this n the guilt i feel for cheating, im scared cause ive lost a lil bit of weight cant get over this bronchitis i think i spelt it right, anyone anyone plz, and please dont give me a warning i just want to be sure before i resume unprotected sex with my partner.
so no need for further testing for the actual scare that happened last may, or any further testing needed based on the october incident. all together i have had so many tests when i was testing for the one in october i had an 8 week lab elisa test, a 15 week rapid a 16 week rapid and a 4 and half month rapid and a few day short of five months lab elisa test. so to all the experts out there can u all tell me no need for further testing? please. and after any responses i will try my best not to test or post anything on here again.
im trying so hard to accept my negative, but it is so hard, i want to let it go so bad why cant i just let it go, any comments on how others got thru it, i wouldnt mind hearing them, but again thanks to all that commented. it was a few days short of 5 months, and in canada the window period is 12 weeks, so i do not have to test at 6 months to a year, can anyone disclaim that, ive heard so many different things that i am fine testing 12 weeks after, see i lived thru an actual scare last year 10 months to be exact where i slept with some one that i found out had hiv, and it was unprotected i did the test up to 12 weeks and it was negative got another test in october and another in november n another in december 8 weeks after i received oral, and now its been five months since and my test was negative, teak or joggen or whom ever, can u tell me aslong as i remain faithful to my partner i will remain negative, and i can resume having unprotected sex with my partner, i shouldnt of cheated twice one was an actual scare the one i was telling u about earlier in my comment and the other was in october and i had so many tests rapid n elisa lab test and they all came back negative, the reason im scared is cause im slowing losing weight etc but my anxiety is sky high so that could be the calperate right. please u all are all i have. and i just need to put this behind me some how, any ideas would help thanks
thanks nursegirl6572 i appreciate it, ill try to focus on my mental health a lil more and try not to dwell on it, 5 months tested and it was negative is about 100% as im going to get and im trying to tell myself that over n over again, its like a devil in my hear telling me these things creating this phobia, but again thanks i appreciate ur comment
You're going to get yourself banned.
How many different people have to tell you the same thing over and over before you'll believe it? How many NEG test results do you need before you'll accept them? The answer to both of those is "there will never be enough" because you have developed an unhealthy phobia/anxiety about this. You can continue testing, but the anxiety will always convince you the test wasn't right, the nurse didn't DO it right...something. You'll continue to test until you finally receive a false positive, which will throw you right over the edge.
You did NOT have a risk, do NOT have HIV, and you have MORE than solid proof in your over-testing that proves that. You said you sought professional help for your mental health? THAT is what you need to be focusing 100% of your energies on...b/c not treated, believe me...things like this can be life changing with the anxiety getting out of control. It's a very real disorder...and you're only delaying help for yourself by continuing to dwell on HIV concerns rather than dive into help for your anxiety.
NO RISK, NO HIV, ANXIETY AND PHOBIC THINKING.
How many different people have to tell you the same thing over and over before you'll believe it? How many NEG test results do you need before you'll accept them? The answer to both of those is "there will never be enough" because you have developed an unhealthy phobia/anxiety about this. You can continue testing, but the anxiety will always convince you the test wasn't right, the nurse didn't DO it right...something. You'll continue to test until you finally receive a false positive, which will throw you right over the edge.
You did NOT have a risk, do NOT have HIV, and you have MORE than solid proof in your over-testing that proves that. You said you sought professional help for your mental health? THAT is what you need to be focusing 100% of your energies on...b/c not treated, believe me...things like this can be life changing with the anxiety getting out of control. It's a very real disorder...and you're only delaying help for yourself by continuing to dwell on HIV concerns rather than dive into help for your anxiety.
NO RISK, NO HIV, ANXIETY AND PHOBIC THINKING.
anymore comments, i just need words of encouragement, i wanna believe the test, but its hard, but anywho sorry for all the post, i truly am, u all are all i got, so again sorry for all the posts.
i posted a comment on here and i dont no where it went, i wanted to say in theory if i had a risk from the oral in theory, getting tested at 5 months with the elisa test, means i am 100% negative right, can joggen or teak or avonelle or lizzie comment please, thanks have a good night
It was time to move on 5months ago.you never had a risk and your test results confirm that.your as clean as your ever going to be.move on
so ya time to move on i guess, its hard to when ive lived this way for almost a year, in fear, but the fact that i have had my elisa test done 5 months from my oral and 10 months since my actual exposure i would say im clean agreed?
thanks joggen, i have been taking baby steps to move on, im seeking mental health help, and hopefully i can revert my mind back to what it was like before the non risk, the reason i was so scared is early last year i slept with someone that actually had hiv, i didnt no until i was called by the std clinic here saying i was listed as a contact, and since then i have been scared, and the oral was the first type of sexual thing i did since the whole scare, but anywho as you say its all over, i tested neg for my sleepin with someone with hiv that was just about a year ago, and now im done with this one even tho its called no risk or negligble risk as the clinics call it here, which means so small not even worth worrying about, but i just couldnt get that concept into my head when even the clinics here wouldnt test me, i had to go thru my doctor, but im fine now time to move on with my partner knowing i will not transmit anything to him, some can be guilt, some can be fear, and a lot can be my anxiety so again joggen i appreciate it.
well i got an elisa test done 3 days short of 5 months, and i got the results last week, ya some say oral isnt a risk and some say its small, but this is my health and only i can take care of it, so i did it for my own peace of mind, and ya in my heart i believed that the rapid was accurate but i wanted more peace of mind, so my doc gave me one more test, and i got it and it came back negative, this is regarding me receiving oral in october, but now since i got wat i want, which was the elisa lab test, i feel much better about oral, rapid testing etc, and the testing in general, so 3 days short of 5 months is about 100% accurate as one is going to get right? joggen or anyone else who wants to respond, i know in my heart it is, but to hear it from someone that isnt my doc or my family or friend, someone with knowledge and means well, anywho hope to hear from someone soon, you all take care and thanks again for the responses, u can tell i have been feeling better i havent posted for a while :) anywho talk soon.
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