risk of my 2 year old being infected

[lljm]

My brother came to live with my husband and i a few months ago. He would play and roughhouse with my 2 year old son on a daily basis. He would someimes kiss him on the lips and would bite his feet. My son has eczema and always scratches his skin and a few times had a bloody lip in the time period my brother lived with us. My brother suspects he has hiv, hes slept with over 50 women.. hes disgusting in my opinion and im livid with him for ever putting my son at risk. If i knew this i wouldnt have let him put a hand on my child.i told him he needed to be tested asap. He is refusing. Im just wondering if the risk is big enough to have my toddler tested. the thought just makes me sick. The contact they had was kissing. I even told him that made me feel uncomfortable.. why do you feel the need to be so physical with a child that is not yours.Once i know for sure it was right after my son had fallen against our table and split his lip.. my brother always has chapped lips so im not sure if he was bleeding. Im so sick with worry. My son hast grown at all since his last doctors appt. He seems to be getting thinner actually. What is the risk of a cut to cut kiss?and is there any legal way i can force my brother to be tested since he could have exposed a child to the disease?
Thank you.
-worried mom.

[LIZZIE LOU]

i totally disagree with the above poster.

there is absolutely no reason that you should have to limit the amount of time your brother is left alone with your son when it is obvious by your post that he loves spending time with him.
your brother's sexual habits have no bearing on what kind of uncle he is to your child.  hiv is NOT transmitted through kissing...even with chapped lips.

[Rob73!]

First of all, if your brother suspects that he may have been exposed to HIV he should test three months after his last possible exposure.

Secondly, there is no risk to your son from what you have described. HIV is transmitted by unprotected vaginal and anal sex, or by shared needles and from mother to child.

However, I think you are being hard on your brother. He may be very scared about his status. Calling him "disgusting" is unfair and not very helpful. If you have further concerns about the beahviour of your brother towardss your son, that is a matter that can't be dealt with on this forum. And I would suggest speaking to social services, or reduce the amount of time your brother is laft alone with your son.

As for HIV risk in this situation; none at all.

[yarrak]

HIV is transmitted by unprotected sexual intercourse, so even this guy is infected there is no risk for your child! None!

I recommend you not to worry about your brother being infected with HIV, they can't transmit it to you unless you have a sex with them. As long as he is having protected sex, he can sleep with many women & men and still won't have HIV.