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Dear Doctors,

Maybe I am a bit paranoid! But I have been for so long. I was at my bachelors party and was having fun.
I didnt do anything since I didnt want to cheat on my fiance just good old fun. I went to bathroom and my friends had the stripper follow me I was about to finish and was wearing my briefs when she came in and stared to dance towards me I refused and turned away she tried to grab me but I pulled away but her hand still brushed and touched my penis but only on top of my undewear since I was able to put in on already. She didint touch my penis directly.  Im not sure if she touched herself first but definitely not when she was inside the bathroom. what if she touched my penis directly? but I know she didnt I havent done anything with my wife since. Ay STDS? HIV? Tested a year ago have been loyal everything was ok

1) Am I just paranoid?
2) Can I forget this and move on with my wife
3) any risks?

[H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D.]

Welcome to the forum.

Congratulations on your responsible attitudes and behaviors during your bachelor party.  This forum occasionally receives questions from newly married guys who made the wront choices during their bachelor parties.  But you did not.  Good show!

No STD can possibly be transmitted by the sorts of non-exposure events you describe.  Hand-genital contact never spreads any STD, and it seems clear that the stripper's contact with you was only through your underwear anyway.  To the specific questions:

1,3) "Paranoid" is your word, not mine, and I certainly would not make that psychiatric diagnosis.  But I agree you are overly concerned about events that carried absolutely no STD risk.  For sure no risk at all.

2) Yes you can forget this event and move on with both your life and your wife. (Interesting possible typgraphical or psychological error there....)

I hope this helps.  I wish you success and happiness in your marriage.

HHH, MD

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Thank you doctor.

I guess it is my guilt anyways then I shouldnt worry about hiv? and not to take any tests?
thanks you

[H. Hunter Handsfield, M.D.]

I already said you should not worry about HIV (or any other STD) -- and of course there is no need for HIV testing.