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hearing loss, alerting devices, assistive listening devices, audiologically deaf, captioning,
cochlear implants, culturally deaf, hearing aids, hearing dogs, home safety,
Meniere’s disease, oral communication, safety, sign language, speech recognition, TDD, telephones, tinnitus, travel, and visual communication.
That said, and not trying to make light of the situation, cochlear implant technology has made great strides.
There are implants that are not yet available that in the US, in my opinion, far exceed the implants available in the US today.
BTW there is a term used for your boy friend, he is called a CODA in the deaf culture. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_Of_Deaf_Adult
CODAs usually grow up in a pretty harsh environment. They have a lot of weight on their shoulders placed on them at a very young age. Picture an 8 year old interpreting for his deaf parents via sign, credit card issues, loan details or insurance negotiations... this is just a small example of what CODAs go through.
The truth is, it is some what similar to all first born generations growing up in a country where the dominant langauge is not spoken by the parents. It can be seen in Hispanic and Vietnamese families frequently.