I am sorry to hear about your husband. Unfortunately, death is a risk of bypass surgery and occurs in at least 1% of surgeries. Even though he was the youngest patient that day, his heart was much sicker than his age would indicate. THe fact that he was active the day before does not change the fact that his heart condition sounds like it was unstable. Very likely, there is nothing you, your husband or his doctors could have done differently to prevent this from happening. Even with all the advances in medicine and surgery, there is always a risk of death from surgery that cannot be eliminated.
I send you my condolences and just have to say hang in there. I was asking myself why me at 42? But to some things there just may not be an answere. Look around you and see what you have got left and pull strength from that your kids and family.
Good luck
John
P.S. I got a heartwarming smile on my face when I saw your note - my husband's name was John...
I just wanted to drop you a note. I hear and understand what you are going through.
I am 27/m that is 8 weeks post op from a Ross Procedure, (aortic valve was bad, RP moves the pulmonic to aortic and thgey put a cadaver valve in the pulmonic's place)
Age really doesn't mean much, when it comes to OHS and its many causes. I am a testament of that, as well as many that I have met since my surgery.
The "Why me's" are something that all family, and patients, go through after such a traumatising event as OHS. Put your faith in God and He will bring you through this whole situation.
God Bless,
Ben