Help!

[BobbyB]

I am unable to ejaculate or orgasm at any time for my whole life. The only exception is wet dreams and I have one every six months or so and even then I don’t orgasm, only ejaculate. I am 20, Caucasian, 6ft, 180lbs, and in really good shape. I have seen 2 expert urologist. They did a digital exam, diabetes test, ultrasound of my testicles+kidneys, cat scan of my abdominal area, urine analysises, and blood tests-all turned out normal. Then I saw two expert sex therapists that in their professional opinion said my problem isn't in my head. The way I describe my problem is that I just don't get the good sensations from touching and rubbing etc but I get plenty of very firm erections. Also I never get the feeling of build up of tension in the parts of the body like the prostate that i should. I sometimes get a pain in the pudental nerve after long erections. I went to see a neurologist and had a MRI done on my LOWER back. The results were normal except for two findings-disc bulge at lumbar4-5 and a central disc herniation at lumbar5-sacral 1. The report said the herniation was not pressing on nerve roots. I then had nerve testing done on my leg and the results were normal; he said I was over reflexive-which he said might be a sign of nerve damage. I saw a chiropractor afterward with no results/improvements. I have never been seriously injured and I have never even been wounded in my groin area ever. What tests should I look into? Docs say it probably autonomic and sympathetic nervous system related. Now the cardiology part, since childhood, I occasionally have "heart pain", and a feeling of alot of pressure on my heart, and a breathless feeling when I get stressed, smell alot of smoke, take really deep breathes in, drink caffeine, first 25 minutes of vigourous exercise, or eat unhealthily (alot of saturated fat). My blood pressure was just taken and it seems normal upper limit, 140/90 then i got it taken at 150/120 yesterday. Are there certain heart beats ranges necessary for orgasm? Can the anorgasmia and heart pain problems be related, is my heart saying i just can't handle this? Again i get firm erections but never orgasm. What tests can be done to diagnose my problem? I am more worried about the sexual problems now but as I age I am sure the heart pain will become an important factor. Is there any possible way I can help research or discover something?  Should I push for a middle and upper spine MRI? Also I have been having of late a really good, stress free life so I don't think it is stress related but it may be possibly i guess.

This problem has been with me my whole life and I want to be done with it.
Thanks replies or referrals mean the world to me,

Bobby Brandy

[Cleveland Clinic, MD]

Dear Bobby,
Sorry but this is out of my field of expertise.  I don't know of any connection between heart pains and anorgasmia nor of a certain heart rate range required for orgasm.  There may be an autonomic nervous system problem so perhaps seeing someone in that field would be helpful.  Dr.  Fouad is the specialist in that area here and your local University hospital should have someone who is trained in autonomics.  I hope you find some answers.

[Jerry]

Best of luck to you in your quest for comedy stardom online,
Bobby.

[BobbyB]

i think its sick for you make fun of my pain, Jerry

[Suzanne]

I think Jerry was responding to your post here that way
because it looks nearly completely phoney, Bobby, given
all the sexual talk in the beginning of it.

It does look funny.  The doctor gave a measured, honest
response to you.  He wasted his time, in my opinion.

Find someplace else to ply your humor.

------ Suzanne Comely