JJB530,
Thanks for the interesting post, and sorry to hear of your very complicated ordeal. I hope BE means Bacterial
EndocarditisEndocarditis
Infectious endocarditis
Infective endocarditis, and not Barium Enema!
First, you need a coordinated (surgical, medical, and neurologic) opinion from a major center. There simply is no guideline for how to deal with the VSD, pregnant, endocarditis patient with a stroke!
I think that the stroke pushes strongly for repair, but the timing will be tricky with the pregnancy and infection. The first episode of endocarditis certainly argues that a second episode is more likely, but I can't give you numbers for this. Open heart surgery is still the only option for repair.
Please seek care at a major medical center.
Good luck