ddavey,
there are comprehensive guidelines for valvular heart disease that can be found at http://americanheart.org/. With respect to the mitral valve repair/replacement is often decided based on the amount and mechanisms of regurgitation, the presence of other valvular or coronary disease, the amount of cardiac dysfunction and the presence or absence of symptoms.
With the fact that your daughters EF is low and the regurgitation is progressing, I would be concerned. It is impossible to tell what that means exactly without seeing her though.
dP/dT is one aspect of echocardiography that explains how well the heart is squeezing. It is not routinely used, but had been correlated to progression of CHF and mitral regurgitation. I dont have a chart handy to explain the specific numbers, and it is really impossible to explain the finding without being able to review the echo itself.
Perhaps a second opinion would help ease you mind and the current course of treatment.
good luck
i am waiting now for the results of the cardiac scan and what her cardiologist recommends, thank you so much for your input