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I am Hep B positive and pregnant and husband wants to leave me

Dear all,
I hope you can give me some support because I am going through a really hard time and I don't really have anybody at this point to talk to.
I have been married for about 3 months now after dating my husband for close to 9 years. We moved to Ghana (where he comes from) in February last year and have been living here since then. After we got married we started trying for a baby and I got pregnant the first month we tried. We were very happy and excited until I went for a first round of blood and urine tests and we were told last week that I had hepatitis (not specifying which type) antigens. The doctor explained to us that it was very common and I asked him how you could get it. He said it was a viral infection and that it could be transmitted through food or poorly washed kitchen utensils, etc. He said I should take Liv 52 and said I'd get rid of the virus by myself, that the medication was just to protect my liver because I was pregnant and therefore more vulnerable. When I got home I started doing some research and the hepatitis the doctor seemed to describe was hepatitis A and that is not the one you are typically tested for when pregnant so I told my husband that I thought the hepatitis i had was B. He went insane and started accusing me of cheating on him because I could have only contracted it through sex and that I had a lot of explaining to do and that he would divorce me. I went back to the hospital and saw another GP who confirmed to me it was indeed a hepatitis B at an early stage since no antibodies were present yet. I explained the situation to him and he told me there were other ways to contract the virus but none of them seems plausible in my case since I don't use drugs or had unprotected sex apart with my husband. I went back home and since yesterday he threatens me with divorce if his tests results come back negative. I don't know what his results will be but if I am sure of something is that I didn't get HBV through sex with another person. When I supposedly contracted it I was already married and knew we were having a child, for God's sake!!
I am now pregnant, worrying about my baby's health and my own and the consequences of this disease if it becomes chronic, feeling terribly lonely in a country where I don't have my family or many friends (and the friends I have are common and can't talk about this with them), and terrified my husband will leave me because I contracted a disease through no fault of mine...
How did I get this disease? I haven't exposed myself to the virus through any of the transmission channels mentioned on all medical websites I have checked! Could it have been at hospital or a toilette or through some cutlery that was not properly washed somewhere? I really do not know anymore...
Sorry the message was so long, I really needed to let it out
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hbv is a benigne illness once you know and it can only make damage and be chronic if infection happens at birth and even in this case only a minority gets damage.
it is also fully manageable and hbv can be cleared from blood (not inside liver cells though) by antivirals

what to say about your husband...he is extremely stupid and ignorant and he doesn t love you, by the way he may have had hepatitis A and B and cleared it during his life, did he check it?
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dear let him get tested as well and which part of ghana are you. i am also in ghana. try hepita3
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Hi Steff,
Thanks for your kind message. I have read a lot about the disease since I got my results and indeed it looks like most people overcome it and if you are within the small percentage who do not it looks like it is manageable. The baby part is more worrying to me right now but it also looks everything will be fine for as long as the vaccinations are given at birth, one month and six months after birth so I feel more optimistic.
I am still unsure how I got it so I am very confused and feel like I must have done something wrong at one point or I should have been more careful knowing that Ghana has a high rate of hepatitis. I also feel like at this point I needed support not a kick from my husband and a threat.
Thanks again for taking the time to reassure me
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Thanks, rizlabantin. Apparently he went today so we'll see but whatever results he gets (and I honestly hope he is virus free) he should't try and blame me for something I haven't done, I have enough to worry about the way it is...
I am in Accra, and you?
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koforidua at the moment
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In case you have been never operated even minor tooth surgery then mange to check HBsAg status in your mother.....may the case of Vertical transmission that could clear balls in your husband's head.
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Hi, I actually had my wisdom teeth removed years ago and had a routine teeth cleaning in May so maybe something happened there... The doctor said that only the antigens were positive so it looks like I got it not a long time ago. I can't ask my mother yet because she doesn't know I am pregnant yet because it is too early...
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what he mean is just convience your mum to get tested for hB and see. maybe you took it from her. forget about your husband and concentrate on your helf first ok.
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rizlabantin, that's what I'm trying to do because at the end of the day, trying to get better is the only thing I can control. I can't control what my husband wants to believe. It is only sad that I am pregnant, hbv positive and tired and instead of being supportive he's attacking me, I need his support more than ever and he hasn't even asked me how I am feeling...
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put it this way, if availble take hbvdna pcr and if you get very low or hbvdna und you can tell your husband your blood is free of virus....

what really matters to your health is the virus in the liver and as long as hbsag is positive there is virus inside liver cells but an ignorant like your husband may be just scared about the virus in the blood and so you can manage him

hbvdna undetectable in the blood mean your are almost no infectious, you should inject a lot of your blood to infect another person when und
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forget about him. at least we are here to talk to you. dont worry i will come for you to koforidua for hollidays ok. Cheer up dear
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By the way,  we become chronic hbv in childhood when our immune system is not matured. 95% Adults if infected have  acute hbv and recover after 6-9 month with  hbv immunity and usually without any symptoms.
So hbv it is not a disease of amoral behavior or dirty life style. The reason we have hbv is either from birth from our mothers or due to the  imperfect health system -- dirty needles in the hospitals broken sterilsators etc.

So tell your  husband the way you got the virus was absolutely out of your control, even if you sit locked all your adulthood you would have it anyway.


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I also have hepa B and I know what you feel although I`m only 18 and not yet married. I also feel so alone and I don`t know how to deal with this problem. How I wish there's a medicine that could really cure hepatitis B so that we can be free of this. I hope you can solve your problem with your husband. And can we be friends?
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Am paul from nigeria I was a virgin till after my secondary school but @ my ss2 when govt organises hepatitis awareness program in schools they got us tested that is how i found out that am positive but is suprising me is that having hepB i hav not had sex before i was tested but how come that is this type that has to do with sexual intercourse that am infected with?  So pls how can i get this product in nigeria pls i realy need your help my email is ***@****
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Hello Ramoga

I feel your pain as I have gone through almost the same situation. Be strong, take care of yourself and your baby. Apart of the medication given by the doctor, you should learn to meditate and relax as much as possible. Stress, sadness, worrying are not good for your liver and your baby.

As you mentioned, it's in early stage so if your immune system strong there í chance you can clear it. Who knows....

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