my gf is breaking with me because I have hep b

[JLZhang]

i was born with hep b and i told my gf about it when we first dated, and she has been fine with it. But she recently told her parents about it, and they were really mad about it. they said there is no way that they would agree for us to be together.

i was going to propose to her next month and now she said she couldn't take the pressure from her parents no more...and she wanted to end the relationship!

what should i do? i feel like killing myself....

[mike9111]

That mean she wasn't the right person for you. Move on and be strong many women will not care for this virus and my wife was one of them

[flyinsky]

Sort the post is in 2013.so I don't know why it appear with new messages

[flyinsky]

No You shouldnt.she doesn't love you.if I were you I will be happy to end tho relation ship.she is adult and not need to told her parents about you this  your secret.she and her parents are ignorant.hope you will find sooner a girl wich accept you as you are.

[aberdeen577]

Ka,
it doesn't have to be like this. I am so sorry to hear of your situation. It is because of deep ignorance on your families part, maybe understandable in a way. You need to learn more reading this forum about the virus. Many of us lead normal and energetic lives like non hbvers and you can too. You need to see a doctor and get your hbsag level checked by "abbots architect" the reading will be expressed in international units per millilitre (IU/ml). Also have a fibroscan done to check liver condition. You need to tell your family you can have a long life and that others can be vaccinated against the virus. Important thing for you now is to monitor regularly your condition and learn more. You can then take this knowledge to your b/f and family.

[naika792]

my name ka , i am 32 yeal old now, I also have hapitis b too I don know where I get from cos I never have sex too , I never check up my health from I was young , I jz know it when I have plan for married, when I got this sick what I get ? my married has been canceled my faince cant accept me and my family also scare to live with me, now I got feel I live alone but I never hopless I still try to live and fight with my sick, although everyone give me up , I jz know and tell myself cos of hapitis b that I lose everything in my life , I can't close with family , I never dare to have love with other man , cos I know they will refuse me again, what I want to say if we got hapitis b must be strong and love ourself more and remember and accept for live alone...

[veteranB]

If she takes a vaccine she is fine and protected.

Her parents worry maybe that you won't live long so they are worried about who will provide for their daughter or children. Just go and have a talk man to man with her father and say in 5 years there will be something. Plus don't waste time and treat your disease. If you are a healthy carrier then most of those people never need treatment. I know a lady who is 80 years old lives with hep b since birth and she is fine.

Also look at this way. If she lives you don't sweat it. We man must move on, you learn it when you get older. But if somebody leaves you in such a situation then you really don;t need this woman, not solid.

[jiyashe]

hi there, Sheryl here.

I want to also share my experience about having HepB. I am only 22years old and have 1 daughter. I did not know where i got it. The father of my child haven't been tested if he has the HepB aswell. We separated 2 years ago and I was single for that span of time and no sex. I have a boyfriend now and we had sex for twice already and once w/ out condom. I am afraid that he might get HepB and leave me if i told him about it. How can i tell him about this?

Thank you

[JoieTan]

People diagnoses with hepatitis experience wide range of feeling from sad, fear, denial, ignorant, and sometimes becomes obsessive about the disease that cause infomation overload. That is normal.
Hepatitis if not controlled lead to higher chance of liver cancer. That is being said, not all liver cancer come from hepatitis, some from alcohol use that lead to chirrosis.
I always tell my friends and relative, the options are to be vaccinated or manage it. There is no such thing as to avoid hepatitis without being vaccinated. It is so common, especially if we eat outside without knowing whether we are eating with clean utensils or not.

I would suggest first is to ***** your liver damage ( if any) using fibroscan or ultrasound.
If liver is fine, take care of your diet (for general health)
If liver is damaged by fibrosis or chirrosis, take medication and watch your diet.

Learn more on how the HBV work. Learning the fundamentals helps to set rational thinking rather than following any suggestion blindly

[lifeisajoke]

My dc told me i am a hepatitis B carrier. WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
sigh, i guess that's life?
I think it is time for me to read bible and be connected with God so I don't feel too lonely when i'm lonely lolz
LOLZ
what can i do?  LOLZ laugh my *** off hahahahahaha
the funny thing is i've been watching my health closely, yearly physical exam, don't really drink, no smoking, very conservative in terms of sex.
what the heck did i do to get this Hepatitis B? lolz
laugh my *** off that I even took the vaccine 8 years ago.
i don't know, life is a joke i guess.

[PinoyHBVDNA]

I wonder what happened to the threadstarter and how is he now...

I know this thread is old already but I am in the same situation... The stress generated by this disease on our young relationship is pushing us to the limit, a little more and I can feel that she's going to break up with me already... I also feel like killing myself from time to time...

I wish that this is all a dream that I can wake up anytime...

[Fr0sty]

I got Hep B because at that time the place I lived did not have up to standard medical care. It's really depressing knowing that it could have been fully prevented.

[Fr0sty]

depends on what? the country? I am thinking about the U.S.

[hatecccdna]

Such thing always happens in China. There is a common fear among chinese on HBV, because of the high population of HBV carrier. The reason is before 1980's all needles are used repeatly without professional cleanning.
Not only because of the risk of health but also the live condition in China is very serious for HBV carriers. Companies refuse HBVer and the health insurence is almost nothing.
That is the trueth and reality.

[cajim]

Also, my general understanding is that everyone should be vaccinated for Hep B. It is suggested to get a booster if you're dating someone with Hep B right?

--Depends.

[Fr0sty]

Just kind of attached to this one. As you are to yours.

[gav177]

This is the problem that we are facing in having a relationship and if the person we love going to accept our condition afer we told them. I do believe that you going to find your woman don't worry.

[Fr0sty]

I did a lot of research when I first found out. But I am not sure she knows much about Hep B since she is younger (I'm in college, she's HS senior).

I am unsure of what stage of seriousness. The longer I wait, the worse it'll be for me if she decides to break up. But telling her too early won't be good either.

Also, my general understanding is that everyone should be vaccinated for Hep B. It is suggested to get a booster if you're dating someone with Hep B right?

[cajim]

My biggest concern is at what stage of the relationship should I tell my gf...I really do not know..

--Do you agree honesty is the best policy?  If yes, as soon as you are serious with the girl let her know everything.  If you are educated, you have a good chance of educating her and win her love.

[Fr0sty]

I have a question, I have a similar situation with JLZhang..asian, born with the virus, my DNA quant is high (higher than the test range). The doctor advises me to keep monitoring for activity since once I start medicine it'll be for a lifetime.

My biggest concern is at what stage of the relationship should I tell my gf...I really do not know..

[cajim]

Knowledge is power.  First, arm yourself with as much as possible; then be candid and let the "he" understand that with positive HBsAB HBV is harmless.  You are just as good as a girl without HBV.

[Sumei000]

Thank you for the reply...I am not worried how long I can live. I had gone through a lot in life. I lost two person in a year (my husband and mom).  My doctor mentioned that he will send me for the test. I am still waiting for the date of appointment.

May be I am lucky to have my understanding husband before. I just never though of having Hep B will make people avoid me for having relationship with me till now. The impact from having rejection from this guy is really hard. I totally cannot imagine how much Hep B will effect my life in future relationship.

I just want to be a normal person and to live in formal live.

Please teach me and tell me how to make them understand me. Where do I start to make them understand me?

[cajim]

You are probably ok and you will live a long time.

You are right:  keep yourself on top of the HBV, be regularly monitored and do what is best for you.

Best.

[Sumei000]

I forgot to tell you that my mom live till 61. She passed in January 09. She did not smoke and she also a non drinker. Anyway, she die of liver cancer cos she didn't not do the regular check up. She doesn't like to see doctor. That is her biggest problem!

Now I am 39, I live like normal people and I smoke too. I don't know how long I can live on but all this in the god hand.

[Sumei000]

I had the same experience like you. I told the man that I date on the first day. He said nothing. I met his family too. I even explained to him that my dad, he is a blood donor all his life. In fact my mom, she is a Hep B carrier and i am a carrier too. I also told him that my brother married to a non carrier and the baby tested, he is non Hep B carrier. On the second date, he called off the relationship with me due to the problem I had. I was very sad even thought is only second date. He was very nice to me. He told me he has the same feeling like me how I felt for him. We even had sex with condom on the second date. He gave me so much hope and make me feel so good for accepting me. Now,I felt like he putting a knife into my heart.

The feeling that I had now is ....I got no hope of getting anyone into my life. Who want to have a girlfriend with hep B? I felt like killing myself too. I am lost! After reading all those commend above, I still don't feel good. The percentage of getting someone or for someone who can accept me like how my dad accept my mom...chances are...may be less then 1%. This is so unfair to me and to the people who are Hep B carrier. I never experience anything like someone rejected me cos of Hep B.

Tell me how to make the guys understand me with my situation? In order to accept me!

I am really lost! I am very up sad...and disappointed.