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Did anyone here get lots of support from their husbands when they were told of their diagnosis or did you get really nasty verbal abuse? Should I forget and forgive, am I asking too much since it is my own fault. My husband won't go for a test and I won't sleep with him without protection, the nightmare goes on....
I agree, education is the key. The veterans website at http://www.hepatitis.va.gov and the HCV Advocate site at http://hcvadvocate.org are both excellent sources of reliable and accurate information. Your husband and child should both be tested, but try not to be too stressed about it because the odds of either being infected are quite low. Your husband's chance of being infected by normal marital contact are so low that most people (including doctors) consider it a non-risk. If you were infected when you gave birth to your child then his risk is slightly higher but still very small. I'm not sure of the number but it seems like I may have heard something less than 5% risk. There really is no need to use protection when having sex with your spouse. I've recently beaten the virus and am no longer infected, but my husband and I had a LOT of sex over the years and he's never been exposed to the virus. We know this because exposure causes the development of permanent antibodies and he doesn't have them. Your husband just needs to learn about the virus and then, if he loves you, he needs to figure out how to help you to heal so you will be able to survive this virus. I wish you the best of luck and I sincerely hope he is up to it.
Yes, there are great people here! It is also a diverse community and things get heated sometimes and things don't come out right sometimes but folks on here are dealing with a lot. Especially those on tx. Your husband owes it to you to research and learn about hep c. I recommend the US.gov VA web site section on hep c. Watch out for the outdated info. Good luck and welcome to our little family here.
Sorry your husband choose to treat you like im in a similar situation but its my girlfriend who i found very unssuportive i c her point about infectious disease etc but i think her lack of support has drove a wedge between us that can never be repaired my source of comfort n knowledge has been on this forum and similiar ones thank u
Thank you for your comments however I feel like you are telling me off for some reason. Lucky for you you have a supportive and real man!
Well, it may be understandable but it isn't supportive which is what spouses are ideally supposed to be.
It shows his ignorance about the virus. Would he react that way if you had a different virus ??
Nobody wants to get this virus.
It isn't your fault unless you knowingly shared blood with someone you knew had the virus.
My husband views his role as a protector and provider. If your husband cares to protect his family than he should get tested asap. He should become informed.
We've had many people come to this forum who had no idea how they contracted the virus.
Tell him to act like a man and get tested and your son should be tested too.
BTW: It is rarely spread via sexually interactions between monogamous couples. It is not an STD. It is spread via blood to blood contact.
If your husband refuses to be informed, don't let that stop you from educating yourself about this potentially deadly virus.
Check out: www.hepcadvocate.org for more information.
It shows his ignorance about the virus. Would he react that way if you had a different virus ??
Nobody wants to get this virus.
It isn't your fault unless you knowingly shared blood with someone you knew had the virus.
My husband views his role as a protector and provider. If your husband cares to protect his family than he should get tested asap. He should become informed.
We've had many people come to this forum who had no idea how they contracted the virus.
Tell him to act like a man and get tested and your son should be tested too.
BTW: It is rarely spread via sexually interactions between monogamous couples. It is not an STD. It is spread via blood to blood contact.
If your husband refuses to be informed, don't let that stop you from educating yourself about this potentially deadly virus.
Check out: www.hepcadvocate.org for more information.
I think my husband is scared, for my son and is angry with me, which is understandable.
I'm so sorry to hear that your husband responded so very badly. The diagnosis itself is hard enough without having one's loved ones making things even more difficult! My own husband has been an incredible soure of support. Is your husband perhaps thinking of this as an std or as something you brought on yourself? Is he angry at you for something else and using this as an excuse to express that? The virus is not an std and is extremely rarely transmitted to a heterosexual partner (when it does happen it is almost always through something non-sexual, like sharing a razor or toothbrush). I was infected via a transfusion (probably) in 1984 but didn't know it until around 1990. After my diagnosis I was very worried that I might have transmitted it to my husband but he didn't get it, and he still remains free of the virus today even though we've never used any protection. My hepatologist told us it was so very unlikely to spread that way that there was no need to use precautions.
I'm more concerned about you being abused over this instead of him showing concern for you. Does he realize that this is a dangerous virus that can kill if left untreated, and that you didn't ask for it? Treatments are getting better all the time but they are still difficult and can be rendered impossible if the home environment is not supportive. I think undergoing treatment while living with an uncaring or abusive spouse would probably be much harder to complete successfully than while living alone. That's something you should probably think over carefully. I hope he won't sabotage your health and long-term survival. Please give careful thought to what matters most to you. You can get a lot of support here but there is a big difference between filling the gaps left by a spouse who doesn't really know how to be supportive versus trying to make up for one who is actually being mean and trying to sabotage your efforts.
I'm more concerned about you being abused over this instead of him showing concern for you. Does he realize that this is a dangerous virus that can kill if left untreated, and that you didn't ask for it? Treatments are getting better all the time but they are still difficult and can be rendered impossible if the home environment is not supportive. I think undergoing treatment while living with an uncaring or abusive spouse would probably be much harder to complete successfully than while living alone. That's something you should probably think over carefully. I hope he won't sabotage your health and long-term survival. Please give careful thought to what matters most to you. You can get a lot of support here but there is a big difference between filling the gaps left by a spouse who doesn't really know how to be supportive versus trying to make up for one who is actually being mean and trying to sabotage your efforts.
I don't know about husband , but my wife is a rock. I got Hep through I.V drug use . My wife has never done a drug in her life, I met her after I got myself clean. After 15 Yrs into our marriage I was diagnosed with Hep c , she has been by my side ever since. I have been through treatment twice 1st time I relapsed , and now I just finished my second go round with some new drugs that have came out since the first time..... I'm waiting for SVR. My wife supports me , and takes care of every step of the way. I could not do this without her. We have been together 25 yrs and nothing can come between us not even Hep c. In your case your husband might just be scared to know and that's why he won't get tested. But he really is better of knowing. Try to talk to your husband about this and maybe you can do this with each other's support. It's a hard thing to swallow at first . Knowledge is key there is lots of help on this form. Do not let it ruin your marriage . In a monogamist Hep c is not transmitted . The treatment drugs today are really good , but learn all you can
Good Luck
Mike
Good Luck
Mike
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