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I can no longer walk
I am a single mom with no family. I was told to stop drinking by my doctor if I wanted to see my childs fifth birthday. I didnt and now my child is 14. However, I can hardly walk anymore. I'm lucky if I can make it to the bathroom at work with out my muscles tightening and being out of breath, Is there anything I can do. No one knows, I hide it well. I am in so much pain that I want it to end. I stay for my kid. Please help. If I miss work, I dont get paid and will lose our apartment. I dont have a car anymore and no insurance. I'm at my wits end. I dont have enough strength to keep going but do so for my child. What should I do. Please help me.
There are other forum(s) here at MedHelp that might be of some help. Alcoholism and another one titled Addiction: Substance Abuse.
My heart goes out to both Dianiee and her 14 yo lil girl and Linda. There is help out there and you are worth it. AA has had wonderful success..they will love you and help you 'til you can love yourself.
May God bless you.
y
My heart goes out to both Dianiee and her 14 yo lil girl and Linda. There is help out there and you are worth it. AA has had wonderful success..they will love you and help you 'til you can love yourself.
May God bless you.
y
I do not think any responses to dianiee were out of line. This person never said she had hep c and people here still took the time to offer advice even though she was in the wrong forum! I feel sorry for her daughter and wish them well but unless the mother wants to live there is nothing more people on a internet forum can do.
Linda, Diannie what shall i say I´ve been there to. I think its a relationship problem.
And maybe for most of us this problems can never be solved, but i think we can learn to cope with them, but to do that we must put away the bottle, if drinking we have no chanses at all, it will only get worse I think.
When i stoped with alcohol I couldn´t see anything positiv at all in my life and about me as a person, when i began to abstain from alcohol I found one positiv thing about me and that was that I didn´t drank, far better then when it was all black.
Diannie you got to see a doctor start with that and be honest about your alchol consumption.
I will pray for both you Linda and Diannie that you shall be able to stop and then solve you real problems .
Take care both D and L God bless
ca
And maybe for most of us this problems can never be solved, but i think we can learn to cope with them, but to do that we must put away the bottle, if drinking we have no chanses at all, it will only get worse I think.
When i stoped with alcohol I couldn´t see anything positiv at all in my life and about me as a person, when i began to abstain from alcohol I found one positiv thing about me and that was that I didn´t drank, far better then when it was all black.
Diannie you got to see a doctor start with that and be honest about your alchol consumption.
I will pray for both you Linda and Diannie that you shall be able to stop and then solve you real problems .
Take care both D and L God bless
ca
Truly, I do not see judgment here. I see straight talk with no sugar coating and that IS support. Trust me when I say that I feel great compassion for those who feel pain in this life. I do know what that feels like. I also know what it feels like to be a child who needs their parents and does not have them and I will always fierecely stand up for the child who is defenceless when the adults in their life do not step up to the plate.
I absolutely do not think that anyone should be given advise that it is ok to keep drinking when you have a disease, and particularly when you have a child. I just think that it would be good as fellow humans in this world if we were able to refrain from judgement, give support, and with that support hope that a person might be able to change their behavior. Unfortunately, it seems some people give "party", meaning 12-step, responses without trying to understand the person. Not everyone who is an alcoholic is in denial of their alcoholism.
Meki ... I don't know if this "love yourself first" thing is true. Sometimes you have to fake it til you make it. I don't mean to be dramatic here but I have not loved myself or felt any worth at all until recently when that thing that has escaped me my whole life finally came to pass. .I have pushed my way through life in spite of that. However, I managed to make all three of my children feel intensely loved and I have been fiercely devoted to them. Sometimes one can accomplish things out of love for other people even though you have not found a way to love yourself yet. For the love of this child and because this child relies on her, I would say to do it for the child if she is not able to do it for herself.
ANY addiction can be kicked - if you love yourself enough to do the hard work and have the willpower to do it.
If you love your child - you MUST love yourself first.
Nothing in what I said was harsh in any way.
And in no way will I apologize for what I have said - because everything I said was said with the utmost caring, respect for humanity...and for this lady for whom the world seems to be crashing down upon.
If you love your child - you MUST love yourself first.
Nothing in what I said was harsh in any way.
And in no way will I apologize for what I have said - because everything I said was said with the utmost caring, respect for humanity...and for this lady for whom the world seems to be crashing down upon.
So let me get this straight. You think the most compassionate advice we could give would be to keep drinking and to say nothing about the fact that she's destroying the life of her 14 year old the longer she keeps drinking. This is not condemning. This is telling a truth you do not want to hear. While I understand the drinking, I do not condone it and it's sentencing her to death to just pat her on the back and go "there, there, have another one".
You think that only people who drink or do pain meds experience the pain of life? There are other better ways to fight this than with a bottle, whether it's an alcohol or pill bottle.
I think your alcohol masks your pain but does not cure it. You prove it yourself when you say you suffer.
You think that only people who drink or do pain meds experience the pain of life? There are other better ways to fight this than with a bottle, whether it's an alcohol or pill bottle.
I think your alcohol masks your pain but does not cure it. You prove it yourself when you say you suffer.
I am so sorry that people respond the way they do - obviously they have no understanding of pain and what one needs to do to relieve it. I understand the drinking in spite of your having Hep C and feel for you. Sometimes the relief that alcohol or pain meds (to all you hypocrites that take pills and condemn drinking) give is more necessary than life itself. We do what we need to do and could use support rather than condemnation. People at work probably don't know how sick you are. I know at my work no one has any idea of how sick I am. People don't want to see or hear about the problems of others. However, I have no resolution for you as I suffer the same.
Lady - you need to look at yourself in the mirror - and you need to decide right now --- IF YOUR CHILD is THAT important --- that you love your child... THEN YOU NEED TO GO SEEK SOME HELP...
YOU have to decide that YOU love yourself FIRST...
And once you love yourself - you're going to realize that you are damaging YOURSELF.
And if you LOVE yourself - then you don't want to do that and you'll take the steps you need to correct the problems.
Ask for help
Don't expect Money --- expect understanding.
Don't expect handouts
Expect tolerance
Don't expect anything but hard work - pain and frustration...
But the knowledge that YOU CAN DO IT --- if you WANT TO DO IT.
Much luck to you - and know that you have a lot of work in front of you.
AA and your nearest clergy can and will help you.
But you have to WANT to do it --- FIRST.
Meki
YOU have to decide that YOU love yourself FIRST...
And once you love yourself - you're going to realize that you are damaging YOURSELF.
And if you LOVE yourself - then you don't want to do that and you'll take the steps you need to correct the problems.
Ask for help
Don't expect Money --- expect understanding.
Don't expect handouts
Expect tolerance
Don't expect anything but hard work - pain and frustration...
But the knowledge that YOU CAN DO IT --- if you WANT TO DO IT.
Much luck to you - and know that you have a lot of work in front of you.
AA and your nearest clergy can and will help you.
But you have to WANT to do it --- FIRST.
Meki
You're at your wits end .. I wonder how your 14 year old feels when he / she depends on you. The first thing I'd like to see you do is get your a$$ to AA or wherever it takes to quit drinking. Your kid will be proud of you and will begin to feel more hopeful for his / her own future. Right now I bet your kid is watching his / her future go down the tubes with you. It is NOT a badge of honour that you were able to keep drinking and live past your doctor's prediction.
I also agree with fret ... I think you're fooling yourself if you think other people around you don't notice things.
It's obvious you care for your child. You have to kick it into higher gear now. You MUST. That kid gets one go round in life, just one, and it's up to us as parents to make that as good as we can. Set your next goal to quit drinking whatever it takes and get that kid to high school graduation and beyond in the best shape you can.
Look at the life that kid is forced to live compared to the life your kid deserves to be and can be living and it's time you change that.
Best of luck.
Trish
I also agree with fret ... I think you're fooling yourself if you think other people around you don't notice things.
It's obvious you care for your child. You have to kick it into higher gear now. You MUST. That kid gets one go round in life, just one, and it's up to us as parents to make that as good as we can. Set your next goal to quit drinking whatever it takes and get that kid to high school graduation and beyond in the best shape you can.
Look at the life that kid is forced to live compared to the life your kid deserves to be and can be living and it's time you change that.
Best of luck.
Trish
do you have Hepatitis C ? this forum is for hep c. not sure how we can help you other then to tell you the obvious. i'm sure you know that if someone continues to drink after a doctor tells them it willl kill them then they need help. you can find help for FREE somewhere in your community, AA, church, etc. Why not set a goal to see your kid graduate HS & college, but this time sober. Best of luck
"No one knows, I hide it well". That's a common myth with alcoholics, and drug addicts as well and I am a former addict. The belief that nobody knows has to do with ones denial system. Are you cirrhotic? Either way, time to give up the booze. Please see your doctor, alcohol is extremely dangerous when abused. Your doctor warned you, yes it's great that you lived longer that he thought. Not to be a smart alec, but there isn't a blue ribbon or trophy given for that. Please stop drinking as your child needs you, get some help as soon as possible as you may not be able to quit drinking on your own. Also, AA works for most all who work it. God Bless
I'm sorry to her about how sick you feel. First, if you haven't by now... you HAVE to stop drinking. And you need to go to see a doctor immediately.
Marcia
Marcia
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