in response to all that responded to jessicainfaith
Hi again everyone, Well just to let you know how good my wife is to me I'll give you an example. Yesterday I spent my whole day in bed feeling sick from tx, my back was killing me and my joints too I felt like throwing up all day! but not once did she come into the room and ask me how I felt or if I needed anything. I take my tx on a Friday and it usually kills my weekend!
I don't want all of her attention but, all she does is give 200% attention to my step son. Who is very smart and know how to manipulate his mom he tests her in everyway and she gives in too him to much! He understands right from wrong and this is why I might get frustrated with my wife, because when I watch him he is totaly different and I'm in control not him. He has ADHD and ODD and is taking nothing for it. I just get on my wifes case about her over babying him at the age of 6. I my opinion he is spoiled by his mom and she enables his bad behavior. I feel she should stop her over spoiling him and have a balance of love and discipline, thats all I ask and for her to be open to my suggestions. Some time change is good and it can also be difficult.
One last note marriage is for better or worse and it takes 2 to make it work!
God bless you all,
As an addendum...it is not the purpose of this forum to help two people work through marital disputes. It is a place for people to discuss the challenges and issues concerning hepatitis, and for support as well. Certainly there may be overlaps, but I am thinking this has gone well past that...
I totaly agree with you I gave my wife the link to this forum to help her understand what I'm going through! and If you read all of the comments I've posted in the jessinfaith I stated that this shoulden't be a topic on this forum but , thanks to my wife it became one. I would have never and never commented about my marriage issues before on this forum.
Thanks for your response,
God bless and feel better
I SECOND THE ABOVE POST!!! I feel for you with your tx , but we are here to help and encourage and inform each other and frankly, your wife and your posts are depressing. You both need to grow up, or split up..
Jamit, damit, you better stop dude, can't you see your out numbered, you'd be better off walking into a hornets nest. -- Just chill out about the marital stuff and stick with the forum's main topic (hcv)- Hope you start feeling better, you should after a month or so. See Ya -- HD
There are a lot of other sites for marriage counseling, ck out relatebetter.com and http://www.drkenner.com/
there has to be some other forums where you can post your relationship problems and get some input.
I get angry when my family goes out on errands and then stop at a restaurant for lunch/dinner. And I sit at home HUNGRY and feeling sorry for myself. Communicate! I tell them dont do that without callin home and see if I would like something brought home. Now if they just remember to do that! Your wife needs to know when it is safe to approach you to ask if you need anything, she probly was glad you were laying down being quiet and not raging at her. But still, COMMUNICATE your needs, or you only have yourself to blame, as much as I would like my husband to be able to instinctively know when I am needy or when I want to be left the heck alone, he doesnt. You have to TALK, no mind reading available. Best to you two, OHC
Thanks for the advice Dude but, can you give the same advice to my wife?
She's the one that brought my marriage into this I'm siply defending myself, out nubered or not? I will continue to do so if people are trying to break up my marriage! It's only natural that I do so! So feel better and lighten up. also I posted earlier that I don't agree with using this forum for this topic. You need to read all of the threads before you comment on what I say.
Thanks again for your support,
I guess your right, I was so spoiled by my wife, mother and friends and family when everyone found out about my hcv, I do feel for you, I'm the kind of guy when feeling good I'm the Jolly ole Boy of the party, but when I feel BAD I want and need attention (spoiled, yes, I'm glad I am) I've been married for 20 years, I think that probably makes a big difference also, my wife isn't only my wife but my best friend. I think you'll will be ok, I know it's rough, but try and hang in there, the other post I was just trying to be a little humorous and get the edge off of things, guess it didn't work- my mouth gets me in trouble alot- speak before thinking- well again, try and hang in there, one day you'll will look back on all of this and laugh.-- See Ya Jamit-- HD
We are not trained professionals here on this forum for 'marriage counseling'. Please don't use up a thread (or 2) for your personal problems involving family disputes and marital problems. You'll have to work that out or not work that out somewhere else other than here. We may all have them from time to time, and some of us don't have them at all.
It is just not appropriate for you both to use this medium as an outlet for your personal squabbling. This is not what our forum is about.
I wish you and Jess the very best. It's not easy, but you can work it out. My wife and I had just been married three years when we found out I had Hep-C. I put off tx until Pegasys became available to me, and I'm half way through tonight. I have not been very easy to get along with, and I'm constantly having to tell my wife I'm sorry. I don't mean to be short with her, but so much of my day is consumed with being in pain, or feeling sick. I have missed three days of work this week due to severe headaches and sinus infection, so it's really tough to help her out, and be a good husband and father. I am really thankful that I have her, and I have promised to make this all up to her someday. I wouldn't want to have to go through this without her, and she knows it. Good luck with your treatments and with your marriage. I just know you will be successful at both! ;-)
PS. Whoever said dealing with family issues with Hep-C shouldn't be a part of this forum, I couldn't disagree more. It's a support forum, and should be open to any problem a Hep-C patient encounters concerning their well-being. Otherwise, why bother. Where's the love?
Thanks for your support and encouragement and your right it's not easy being on TX and dealing with the normal everyday challenges. Especially if your one of the people like me that have bad sides. I'm in pain 90% of the time and I find it hard to deal with problems in the home after I suffered a whole day at work just to support my family. Sometimes I feel that my efforts are not appreciated and that I could use a little more understanding from my wife at times when I'm short fused.
I do love her and I'm glad she's part of my life!
I wish you and yours all the best that this life has to offer.
Get well soon and God bless you.
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