Sad for a friend

Did not know how affected I would feel when an online friend participating in the same trial as I am in found out she was no longer clear at 30 post treatment.  Totally ***** - for her most of all.  For me - I hate that I can only be there for her over a computer.  Tears are best shared...

[Dee1956]

I am so very sorry to hear the sad news.

[babs824]

if u wish to contact this person u could exchange emails. i have talked  by phone and even skyped with several of the great folks who supported me here. we can get quite close on the forum and feel that we know others for sure and their pain is most certainly shared... even if we never see their face. best to u and your pal, babs

[nygirl7]

It never gets any easier sadly.........it just *****.  I wish there were more we could do too but it seems the only thing we can do is be there for them.

I'm sorry to hear the news.

[Susan_1a_CC]

Thanks ladies for understanding.  I only really started using my computer during my own tx and sometimes can really feel both its ability to help us connect with those we'd never likely meet otherwise, and now, I feel its shortcomings...  

Babs, hadn't thought about skyping - good idea as we do have each others e-mail addies.

[babs824]

i skype overseas every day for at least one hour and it is free! i feel the closeness that a phone cant offer. im sure she would like to feel such connection as this disease can be so damn lonely. maybe u can get her info and connect with folks who have had to repeat tx and managed to get thru. some positive examples would be a nice gift and she may not have the energy to  search. you have been here long enuf to know that as sad as it is folks frequently do not succeed the first time. keep the faith and help her do the same. you are a good friend, babs824

[Diane12855]

I know what you mean. I got so connected to people on this forum while I was on tx... it was my life line. It doesn't matter if you ever see their face... you see their hearts... you feel their caring and it is like you have known them all of your life. This computer age has saved us with this disease because nobody we know is dealing with it, but we are able to connect with people going through the same thing we are. It is kind of a blessing and a curse at the same time.
Just let your friend know that you care, and that you are still there for her... that is the important thing.


Diane

[Trish77]

I started treatment with two "trial buddies", in the same trial as me.  One started the same day as me on the other side of the world in Australia, the other a fellow Canadian.  I am the only one of the three of us that cleared.  It was...difficult.

I will say to you Susan that express yourself very well and while the need is as much yours as hers to have the comfort of a hug, some well-placed words feel like an embrace also.  How you get your message across is less important than it actually achieving it's goal.  

I'm sorry about your friend and I hope she recovers well mentally and physically, hoping for SVR for her next time around.

Trish