You think Im a prank?

First time in m y life I needed a support group and reading that you think I could be a prank really did a number on me.
Im speechless and going to stay that way,
Didnt think something l ike this could ever happen .
Im stunned and very hurt. I forgive you all...you dont know me.
Be Well & Happy
Bonnie

[jmjm530]

I also read that post and that was it was inappropriate from someone who usually has better sense, especially under the near-emergency like circumstances which you posted.

As background, we have had problems in the past with let's call them "prank" posters but I never thought for a moment you were one of them. But even if I thought you were, I'd never call someone out in obvious crisis, if I had a 1% uncertainty in my mind.

Frankly, as long as someone is polite, doesn't give out misleading information on drugs, etc, and doesn't attack other people -- I think people should think twice about calling them prank posters unless they have evidence. This has happened before -- "NiceGuy" is one member who comes to mind -- and I can only imagine how hurtful it is not to be taken seriously.

The person who intimated that you might be a prank is usually one of our more intelligent and sensitive posters and consider her a friend -- but maybe she just had a bad day or wasn't thinking things clearly though. Maybe next time she will let someone clear a crisis completely before theorizing whether they exist or not.

Glad you're feeling better today.

-- Jim

[BonnieRobin]

thanks much for your kind words and support. MEans alot. Im going to go to a supoort group where I can see peoples faces and perhaps will work out better.
I also do volunteer work 2 days a week for terminally ill children they give me much support also.
Just had the worst day of my life yesterday and needed help for the first time in my life.
DIdint know what hit me.
Thanks so very much for listeneing.
Good Luck To You and of course be well.
Im closing down on this forum.
Not everything works for everyone.
Love & Happiness
Bonnie

[GrandmaA]

Please don't judge us all by one inconsiderate and inappropriate poster. As Jim said, we all have good days and bad ones. We just have to be careful when we have the latter and not hurt anyone. Perhaps because the person has so much control of their life they couldn't imagine someone "losing it". But it can and does happen. I'm glad you turned to us for help. That's why we are here. Take good care.

Whenever I think I'm having a bad day I remember I could be blind and also have a broken back and I don't. Then I start counting my blessings. It is very bad to kick someone when they are down. Making bad karma.  

[nygirl7]

As this is the internet it's impossible for us to tell who is real and who is not. As you have to understand - there are a lot of REAL nutjobs out there who have nothing better to do than WASTE nice, kind peoples good intentions.  This typically starts to happen when school lets out - we've been burnt MANY times before.

So you have to understand why someone would wonder if you were legitimate or not.  It's not an insult it's just a truth.

You seem to be young and have many issues that you need to deal with aside from having this disease. I just wnat to remind you that we - just like the the "nutjobs" are just people and really although mean well...you can't always just take peoples words at face value.

At the end of the day, this is just the internet and some people are NOT well intentioned at all.

You came on and posted a ton of posts immediately and in the past begging for attention has just been the BIGGEST sign of a puppet.

So, don't take it personally - just remember that all of us old timers...are always a tiny bit suspicious because...we've been hurt before. It has NOTHING to do with YOU personally.

Please understand that.

[jmjm530]

Or course, do whatever you think is best, but please don't give up on this discussion group because of one post by one poster. I think the rest of the support you got here was very good, and as I said before, I think the post was out of character for the poster involved. Just so you don't feel too bad, this has happened to a lot of folks here, and it generally happens when they're new and people don't have a frame of reference. I can't imagine how demeaning it must be to have your heartfelt posts not taken seriously, but also remember that a lot of the folks here are on medications that sometimes make one a bit paranoid.

All the best,

-- Jim

[GrandmaA]

One bad apple (or day) doesn't spoil the whole bunch. Please come back. It is very unfortunate and hurtful that you were not taken seriously. But we are not professionals, we are just lay people trying to survive on treatment and reach out to others. I'm so very, very glad you are doing better now. I wish I was a 2/2.  

[mikesimon]

I think that you got a tremendous outpouring of support and I believe that no one meant to demean you by wanting to verify your sincerity. As mentioned, we have had charlatans visit us so we sometimes become suspicious. I sincerely believe that the overwhelming positive response so far out weighs anything you perceive as negative that should feel very welcome here. A lot of us have felt offended at times but it all gets forgotten and forgiven quickly. Mike

[orphanedhawk]

Bonnie,
   We are all typing away at a keyboard somewhere. I don

[FlGuy]

I think that your characterizations in comments 3 and 6 were a little off, especially when you look at the comments (previous thread) that seem to be at issue and prior threads and comments over the past 10-14 days.  If nothing else, Foresee is the epitome of compassion and understanding. She just squeemish around needles.

[nygirl7]

Foreseegood is one of the most compassionate people on this forum but she too has been around long enough to be burnt, big time.

As odd as it seems, there is a solid foundation for the comments - I attest to that and honestly have wondered the same thing myself but just decided to stay away.

When a persons problems shall we say are just much to serious for me to be any help (and face it reciting odds and treatment is not the same as discussing at length mental issues) it seems the best to do and puppet or not...that is why I stayed away.

Foresee didn't say anything in a bad way - she just stated a point.

[shastri20032003]

Bonnie,I would simply put it this way. Why dont you count the amount of positive support you have got on this forum and compare it to the amount of negatives you feel was unjustified?
If the plus is more than the minus than stick around but if the minus is more...you make the call
What I have seen  in your case the plus by far outwweighs the minus...just my personal opinion
Take care

[Forseegood]

First off, I've already apologized to you for probably being a little harsh before, I think I should of apologized for that...but no where in my posts did I say I thought you were definitely a prankster, I only said it crossed my mind...I'd venture that it crossed more then a few people's minds here besides mine...

There have been many, many pranksters, trolls, and insincere people....and people are getting checked out a little by members when they first post, or a lot of members anyway (I'd venture) it's the nature of what goes on around here...to those members who take it for granted that everyone who newly posts is on the up and up, I salute you....I'm probably not like that...but I try to be kind and supportive to everyone who newly posts, as long as they are being polite as well...

Like someone said, we're not sitting in a room together, we just take it on good faith that new people are talking about legitimate problems and concerns of theirs, particularly when someone is new here...I figure anybody who is newly posting is figuring that much...

I wasn't taken seriously when I first started posting here, in fact, I pretty much got blasted out of the water...far, far worse then you got...Do I think this is fair? What's fair? I didn't like it, but all in all I figured I was new, and they didn't know anything about me anyway...

And my opinion only, this board used to be far, far less polite and much more "cliquey"....does that excuse bad behavior? No....but I figured fine, my need for hep c information was bigger then my need for an "unbruised ego" or whatever...If someone is being rude to me? I'll let it be their problem, that's just how I navigated here when I first got here....and believe me, I was just as freaked out about having this diagnosis as anyone....I also put this in relative terms, there is a certain reality that goes on on the internet, and that is that we can't possibly police all who come and go here...no one can...

We are typing in posts that show up on a board....anybody can post here, and say anything...I figure we all have to take that for granted...there are a lot of things taken on faith here...I still feel that this is like a "club" of sorts, and like any club or social gathering, not everyone is going to be liked or respected by EVERYONE, even AFTER people get to know you...even the most popular people are going to have their detractors, maybe out of just plain jealously sometimes...this is the nature of any club or board...It's just the human condition...it would be great if everyone was kind and at their best at all times, everywhere, ain't gonna happen though...

But there are so many people here who are kind and good to each other...and share information and help each other out, all the time...people who have gone through so, so much.....yet they are here to help others out who haven't gone through a fraction of what they've gone through....it's pretty miraculous if you think about it...

If you are the type of person who expects total empathy and sympathy, and for everyone to believe and buy everything you say at all times with no argument... Then no, I wouldn't recommend ANY internet board for you...because time will tell, that someone here will be rude or off color one day, or worse, that a prankster or unfeeling person will say something highly insulting or demeaning....many of us have gone through that...it just comes with the territory...

Sometimes there will be someone to stick up for you here, other times, not, you either stick up for yourself or report or ignore...there are options for bad behavior and you CAN report someone for abuse.....and many of us have had to use that option, at times, a whole lot...but I don't think someone saying that something "crossed their minds" is going to be deemed "abusive" by anybody..

I think part of what comes with communicating with other people as an adult is having realistic expectations...and I think for the most part, you had a great, big, outpouring of support, helpful strategies, etc...on these boards, best to be a "glass half full" type of person, cause it can get sticky sometimes...hopefully, if you decide to stick around, you'll get heaps of good information and support as I have...But like you said, you might be the type of person who likes it better at a hep c support group, nothing wrong with that either...just my take...

[BonnieRobin]

I dont have one bad or harsh statement to anyone o this forum. Please just "Let It Be"

Be Well
Bonnie

[missy60051]

I commend all for saying it like it is.  Beating around the bush isn't going to help anyone.  It's called constructive critisism.  That comes with age.  Adapt to the enviornment. Learn from your mistakes and others as well.  I'd rather be told the real time than to be given the wrong time.
Missy

[mikesimon]

I always hate it when I hear "that's enough" or "it's finished now" and particularly so after someone has monopolized the conversation ad nauseam. I'm not the only one who saw this coming - am I? Mike

[BonnieRobin]

I apologized to everyone if I caused any harm..i apoligize again for saying let it be and you guys go on way the way   you have been. I m sorry for getting everyone upset because of my panic yesteday. I have been trying to make his better all day and hopefully we can put and end to a situation that turned out to be bad.
Im truly sorry.......and trying to make this situation better.
Please guys go on without me I will eventually be okay just have to get over hurdles and major life changes like you all have already. Im GREEN at this and sorry I rustled all your feathers. It certainly was not my intention.
Al I have been doing is thanking you for helping thru a very rought time in my life. The reason why I said let it be because
perhaps someone else needs your help now. Give them a chance.
Bonnie
Thats why I want to end it already.
We have all said what we wanted to say.Health & Happiness To All
Bonnie

[geterdone]

Nuff said, lets move past it, either ya getter done now or getter done later... the bottom line is, you got to GETTERDONE!!! and if your going to GETTERDONE!!! there is no better place than here.

Jasper

[orphanedhawk]

This is just to inform you since you aren't doing tx yet. When you come on this forum, many of us are on these strong medications. The riba we take has a tendency to make us obsessive and gives us, riba rage. This may explain why it isn't always easy for us to Let It Be.
     Peace,   OH

[pitter]

i am sorry that this happened to you....it should not have happened... you go somewhere for help, and then someone hurts you... it happened to me too, when i first came on this web site...i for one am sorry you got kicked too!!!
there are some very opinionated people here who like a good argument.
it is too bad.

[BonnieRobin]

I think the time has come to put this entire situation to rest. Please.
Thank you.

[Forseegood]

I'll let it be after this, please don't take this stuff too personally...remember, it's not like we're sitting in a room together, we're just members of this forum, and we're here to help and support, (cause it helps us get our minds off our own problems too) and analyze and share info and argue and discuss...

No one is pointing fingers at you cause, cause...we can't see you! Don't let it get to you...No one's "mad" at you....if you don't like the advice of one poster, focus on the advice of a poster you do like, and let's face it, you got a lot of good advice and support from a lot of kind members...(although, sometimes I've learned a lot from posts I didn't like to hear)

It's just that simple...you have to have a little bit of a thick hide to be on the internet, that's just how it is...not everyone here has gone through "sensitivity training" I've had trolls try to poke my eye out with some perceived weakness in my post, so what? It's just their typing...and it's gone in moment...

I remember once I got all flustered, I thought I was getting "beat up" by a few members, and maybe I was, whatever? Were these people who were beating me up that day (and maybe I overreacted afterall) were they paying my bills or doing something important in my real life? Can they *really* hurt me in any way? NO!!!...not unless I give them the power...

At this point, I just figure, everyone is entitiled to their own opinions...and wow, I'm not going to win any popularity contests at MedHelp...but I'll still go on! ha ha!

Just try to take it all with a little sense of humor and perspective...I always look back on a poster who told me this when I was upset over something when I was new..."It's just the Internet! What were you expecting! Really, everyone forgets and goes on to the next subject...you'll see if you do stick around, be well Bonnie...just my take..