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461838 tn?1255790216

am I crazy

I am going to drive 5 hrs this Friday tx night, to Moyock NC to meet Carol a woman I met on myspace and after talking to daily have decided we are love with the person we've been communicating with. She knows I am on tx, and my situation with sx and such. She has worked in the medical field a lot of her life is presently the main tech for an orthopedic surgeon. She has invited me up to stay in a 8 bedroom resort house at Sand Bridge Beach in Virginia. Her nephew is getting married that weekend and I am invited to that, to meet her family, 3 daughters and enjoy the beach with her and get to know each other.

We both have really worked this over in our minds and so forth. She doesn't want it to be awkward and wants us to really fall in love, not just love each other, but the whole nine yards.  I have always felt we were soulmates.

We will be together not in the same room from Friday until Monday. My concerns are besides the obvious is my sx during tx, also my essential tremors rear their ugly head at a moments notice moreso  through tx.
I just want to make her feel good and it was worth it and go from there.
The most I have driven since being on tx is about 45 minutes. I have never driven to Moyock NC, which is near Elizabeth City.  I hope there are a lot of pitstops on the way.

I really don't want to cause her any unhappiness, or pain. I don't want to kill myself doing this also. I guess if truelove is afoot we'll get through this,  I guess I was thinking when we planned this that I would be well into tx and not experiencing these sx.
Anyway, am I crazy,     It is a fool that looks for logic in the chambers of the human heart.

Peace and health

This the first time I have attempted anything like this really in my life and going through tx.

I have fears and try to give them to faith, I guess the main one is what if we don't click, then I drive home. What if I am sick from tx, she said that I may have to sleep on a couch so i am not sure that I'll have my own room. I am thinking about the using the bathroom 8 times a night, excluding diarrhea.
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264121 tn?1313029456
awwww... ;)  I hadn't read your update since you got back.  I am so happy for you!
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461838 tn?1255790216
Thanks, I have vacation and sick time, but am near 30 years with the City and can use the accumulated sick time to retire early.
Lately since my hemoglobin was low and certain sx I have been coming in late or taking a day off. But it is never planned, like my trip. I need to get a hold on finding something consistent work hour and off time wise.

Peace and Healt

btw took my guitar and didn't harldly play a lick
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408795 tn?1324935675
Glad to hear your trip turned out so well.  I'm sure things will settle down for you soon.  Personally I would take some disability from work for awhile, maybe work fewer hours a day, if you have the option.  later
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461838 tn?1255790216
It was hard as heck, I know a lot is due to treatment, but just doing it and having faith were the kickers.
Yea  definitely Carol will come here, or probably kiddingly she asked when I was moving down there, which I own a house with the bank and I am looking at cheap apts or houses that rent to me and Luke, that would definitely make it easier if I wanted to cut away to Carol, plus the house is too much for Luke and I.

I slept forever last night and Luke left me a puddle this morning, which I stepped in of course, then I had a minor accident. I would have made it to work on time for once, but alas the props of tx sx, maybe Luke is having sympathetic sx.
He did the best he could, couldn't scold him or anything, he's cool.

I can't get over the massive irritability, I save for myself and Luke, the sudden insomnia. Talking with other Drs and patients(one on Lukemia treatment) they said they had several transfusions with my numbers and felt so much better. My chiro says it's stupid about the rescue drugs and transfusions, it is just one doctors choice on the matter. I don't understand completely why I or anybody with decent insurance would have to suffer so much, WTF it is chemo, the stress level and mental attitude is so important to our complete recovery.

I am still crazy irritable and plan on calling the clinic physcicologist today or email.

I am taking a complex natural all around vitamin now as recommended by my family doctor.  
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475300 tn?1312423126
Glad you went and found your heart!!  I'm sure it was hard as heck but sounds like it was worth it!!!!

Denise
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548668 tn?1394187222
Looks like we all LOVE Carol TOO!!!

I can't wait for the next episode - you could make a movie of this one!!
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412873 tn?1329174455
Whoa!  A real love story!  

I love it and am so happy for you both.

Ok, next time is her turn to drive, lol!!!

Hope your labs improve soon :-)

Izzy

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Avatar universal
Goof....No juicy details
Headshop.....she said she has had a smile and a glow at work
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I think now we know the answer goof.

headshop, really glad it worked out for you. Best of luck to both of you.

cando
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Avatar universal
This is exciting, and again I wish you the best!!  

Upon reading some post comments on 'driving' while treating... perhaps it is best she travel to see you, at least until the end of treatment. :)  We don't want you jeopardizing your safety and I'm certain you would be devastated hurting someone else along the way - from being tired, etc.  You made it, and I, for one, (and sure everyone agrees) are relieved!  And very happy with your positive report about Carol.  I've got a good thing going on, and a romantic and wish you the same... cheers.

"The most precious possession that ever comes to a man in this world is a woman's heart."  (Josiah G. Holland)
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476246 tn?1418870914
I am happy for you two! May the love last forever and be sweet as honey!

God bless!!!

Marcia
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461838 tn?1255790216
I believe i did the journey for 2 reasons, to be with Carol and prove that we were ment for each other, and that through my own petty pride and faith, that I could do it.
I talked to Carol tonight, she said she has had a smile and a glow at work.

We love each other
We like each other
We make each other laugh

We miss each other

This is just the beginning

Peace and Health

btw, it almost killed me, and if my hemoglobin had been down one point today I would of had a transfusion.  

It is a fool that looks for logic in the chambers of the human heart.
Everette Ulysses McGuill
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Avatar universal
As stated in both my comments above, I'm glad you followed your heart, dude!

You've got our interest up... so keep us informed on how this progresses.  Really rooting for you!
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206807 tn?1331936184
The 5-hour trip must have been brutal.
If you are planning a trip back and “The Big D.” problem is still an issue, you may want to consider contacting NASA. You may find some on EBay

SEAN O'DRISCOLL
Associated Press (ASAP)
NASA astronaut Lisa Nowak lifted off from Kennedy Space Center aboard space shuttle Discovery last July 4. Like all shuttle astronauts, she was wearing space diapers -- in NASA speak, Maximum Absorbency Garments, or MAGs.
MAGs don't generally get much attention, but this week they ended up in bizarre headlines after Nowak drove 900 miles from Houston to Orlando wearing her diapers -- according to police, so she wouldn't waste any time at rest stops on her quest to hunt down Colleen Shipman, an employee at an Air Force base near the space center.
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461838 tn?1255790216
Now if I could get back in the groove of dealing with sx in the morning then get to work on time I would be ok, gotta remember how much it takes to give and how long sometimes it takes to have something to give again. Looks like l will be a little late for work today, at least I'll make it if the big d will ever subside.
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I'm glad this worked out for you.  Even though I came out and said basically .. "are ya nuts???"  :)   I'm one who's always pushing limits but there was just stuff about this that I just had to throw in an opinion on.  You took it very well and even tossed back with humour to my comment on chianti and fava beans...good on you. :)   I'm glad that everyone was so understanding with you and that you were treated so well.  I've done things on treatment that exhausted the heck out of me but that were also worth it and in the end, only we can decide ourselves and so you did.  Again....I'm very glad this worked out well for you.  Nice story.  :)

Trish
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212705 tn?1221620650
Attitude

by

Charles Swindoll


The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.
Attitude to me, is more important than facts. It is more important
than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances,
than failures, than successes, than what people think or say or do.
It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make
or break a company...a church....a home.
The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude
we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past...we cannot change
the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable.
The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have....and that is
OUR ATTITUDE...I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and
90% how I react to it. And so it is with you...we are in charge of out attitude.
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619345 tn?1310341421
Your the best really a trouper enjoyed this true life real novela
and I can see this is how you will get through the trying times of your tx journey you just jump in and do what you want your motivation lives! that is fantastic and a real good inspiration for all of us tied to the house and afraid to just make that move that can make all the difference in our outlook and attitude which seems to be the key to success as much as anything else
big Abrazos so nice to hear your story and read all the posts thereafter
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461838 tn?1255790216
Alright am out of work today, diarrhea, resting, sleeping, really tired, Hep Dr, finally called in my phenegran. I gotta admit I am really wasted, but the trip was worth it.

I did have to take that rest or nap, and listen to my body, or it might of quit talking to me if you know what I mean.

It showed me that we can do things in our state of health, but I would have died of exhaustion if everyone wasn't so understanding and concerned.

I am talking about the concern on this site also,
Thanks everybody

I wish my damn hemoglobin would get right.
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338734 tn?1377160168
Alright dude! Even dangerous schemes look good when they're in the rear-view mirror and were a success. Yes, I think your crazy. May you never recover! This thread is like a novel you can't put down.

So, it is only another six hours to RG's place. Maybe next time, eh?

Brent

P.S. GoofyDad - if you are not a writer, you should be. If you are, I want to read your books. That was one messy turtle-head decapitation. LOL!
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548668 tn?1394187222
OMG - I've been so waiting your return!!  It (she :-) sounds well worth the monumental effort;  glad you're home safe (safer when your hgb is better!!!!)..  Get a great rest!
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Yayyyy! 'm so happy for you. I was afraid you were taking on too much. Sooo glad it worked out.
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Glad you took a chance, Never underestimate these lovely creatures- sounds like you've got a good one too.  Take care, and if it worked out this well in the condition you're presently in... well, I'm thinking and hoping it will only get better for you.
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419309 tn?1326503291
Ah, the scent of sweet romance :) ...  made me smile ear to ear, too, and made me think of this song...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ykmewqEUZHU&feature=related

Glad to hear it was worth the trip!
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92903 tn?1309904711
Hmmm....

No juicy details. Like whether the nurse/girlfriend came equipped to dispense the obligatory ''first-night-together-in-a-swanky-B&B" enema. Gee - this headshop dude plays his cards pretty close to the vest...

Sheesh.....

Glad it all worked out well. Adding a little spring to your step will make the coming months easier.
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