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OK, I was seeing an ex-girlfriend of mine for over a year. Into the first three months of our relationship she tells me that she is positive for HSV-1. Now before this, I was tested regularly because I see myself as a pretty health conscious person. She had neglected to tell me that before our relationship she had been with someone who was potentially positive as well. We never engaged in unprotected sex, or oral sex but of course as many young couples did we kissed a lot. Results come in today that I am in deed HSV-1 positive.
Does it suck? Ummm Yes. Am i angry? Yes. Now since long ago (October) we have been officially done and she has moved on and so have I. However, in October I was tested negative for everything and now I'm showing signs of being positive in my blood. Yes I am aware that it could take anywhere between 3-6 months to show positive but this is not my concern. My concern is how do I simply tell my new partner I am officially HSV-1?
I really, really like her. And obviously we've kissed, she knew my ex had HSV-1 so I never lied to her about that and she knew that the first time my results came out negative. How do I go back now and tell her? It is her right to know, and no matter what I am there to support her (to go get tested, to not want to talk to me, to hate me and etc). Honestly, honesty is the key. I am an open book, but this will be the hardest thing to do and I need some input before I go out there and just put myself on the line.
Obviously this is my fault, but how would i have known my results would have changed? Its unbelievable
Sincerely,
Just trying to be an honest man, and do the right thing
OK, I was seeing an ex-girlfriend of mine for over a year. Into the first three months of our relationship she tells me that she is positive for HSV-1. Now before this, I was tested regularly because I see myself as a pretty health conscious person. She had neglected to tell me that before our relationship she had been with someone who was potentially positive as well. We never engaged in unprotected sex, or oral sex but of course as many young couples did we kissed a lot. Results come in today that I am in deed HSV-1 positive.
Does it suck? Ummm Yes. Am i angry? Yes. Now since long ago (October) we have been officially done and she has moved on and so have I. However, in October I was tested negative for everything and now I'm showing signs of being positive in my blood. Yes I am aware that it could take anywhere between 3-6 months to show positive but this is not my concern. My concern is how do I simply tell my new partner I am officially HSV-1?
I really, really like her. And obviously we've kissed, she knew my ex had HSV-1 so I never lied to her about that and she knew that the first time my results came out negative. How do I go back now and tell her? It is her right to know, and no matter what I am there to support her (to go get tested, to not want to talk to me, to hate me and etc). Honestly, honesty is the key. I am an open book, but this will be the hardest thing to do and I need some input before I go out there and just put myself on the line.
Obviously this is my fault, but how would i have known my results would have changed? Its unbelievable
Sincerely,
Just trying to be an honest man, and do the right thing
Ok, I will call or pick up the results this week because I will be working and the clinic will not be open until I have my next off day. However, this is a great start and indicator to where I stand with this.
I would like to extend my thanks
I would like to extend my thanks
any number below 3.5 infer a false positive in need of retesting. Testing at 8 weeks post exposure would be a good indicator.
I will find out my numbers of course because that is important to know and to have for my own filing
It never was shown on blood test before
I was called over the phone and that's where I was told my results.
She told me "i was exposed" and that my numbers were low but still positive for HSV-1. This is all new to me as I stated above being I found out today and previously when my ex and I broke up I was HSV1 negative.
I was called over the phone and that's where I was told my results.
She told me "i was exposed" and that my numbers were low but still positive for HSV-1. This is all new to me as I stated above being I found out today and previously when my ex and I broke up I was HSV1 negative.
Thanks for a speedy response Life360
To continue with what you were saying, if i were to have contracted this from a childhood incident. Would it be possible that only now it would be showing up or would it have shown up all the previous times I took a blood test?
To continue with what you were saying, if i were to have contracted this from a childhood incident. Would it be possible that only now it would be showing up or would it have shown up all the previous times I took a blood test?
Hi, upward of 65% of the adult population would test positive for oral hsv1 and with no sores to swab to confirm where you have it, its most likely oral from childhood. During the kissing, if she did not have any lip sores at the time, the odds you contracted herpes from her would be close to zero as shedding does not occur that often.
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