Answers on Genital Herpes HSV-1

I have recently found out that i have herpes hsv-1 genitally. Before i found out i began a long distant relationship with someone. It has now been over 6 months, we love each other and i am travelling interstate to see him again. We were intimate when we first met 6 months ago but never had sex. I am so scared to tell him about it. Our situation is already hard enough not living in the same city but he is willing to move here to be with me. Im not sure whether i should tell him before he comes here as its such a difficult conversation to have over the phone and not face to face. I totally believe that i need to be honest about the situation but i don't know how?? Also, i've only had one outbreak and was told by the doctor that i probably will never have another one again as at the time i contracted the virus i was extremely unwell and my immune system was low. Im aware that if he has a blood test and shows up positive to HSV-1 the risk of transmission is very low. Prior to having this happen, if someone i was becoming involved with told me they had HSV-1 genitally, i probably would not continue the relationship which makes this all the harder. So do i need to tell him about it? do almost all people who have HSV-1 genitally pass it onto someone at some point in their life? Are there people out there who have unprotected sex even though they've had HSV-1 on their genitals? Im trying to work out if the time came how i would get pregnant? I know there are a lot of questions here but i am so unsure on what to do. I don't want to pass it onto him and feel the way i felt when i found out. Seriously i had no idea that you could contract herpes from someone giving you oral sex when they had no coldsores. Any advice or help would be really appreciated.
Thanks

[gracefromHHP]

This is a conversation you should be having sooner rather than later. It doesn't get any easier the longer you put it off.

You need to have the full std "talk" together. Discuss any testing he's had done and ask him if he's willing to get tested now and share his results with you. offer to do the same too. Talk about if he wants to use condoms or not.  Talk about birth control too. After you've covered all that, talk about your hsv1 genital infection you have. Tell him how important it is for him to get tested to know his own status. let him know how little it sheds and how unlikely you are to transmit it even if he doesn't have hsv1 himself. offer to email him info like the herpes handbook for more info and to back up what you've told him.  

Once you know his status, you can decide together what precautions to take.

grace