I contracted gential herpes type 1 in 1998. The outbreak site was typically on the tip of my clitoris. The outbreaks become fewer and fewer over the years. Then I met my ex-husband and he also had genital herpes. We started dating in 2005 and it turns out he must have had type 2 because I started having severe, frequent outbreaks in different areas. I've struggled for years to get it under control. I usually still have 1 outbreak a month or more even though I'm on suppressive Valtrex.
At any rate, I've become pretty OCD and am paranoid all the time about passing it to new partners or roommates or whatever. I always clorox wipe toilet seats although I know there's no documented evidence of transmission this way. And I'm an obsessive hand washer to the point where my hands are usually dry, cracked and/or bleeding. It also tends to have a big impact on my sex life because I am always pestering partners to wash, or jumping up right during or after to wash and ruining the mood. My last boyfriend left because of the annoyance of my OCD about it, not the disease itself.
I always tell partners now. Today I had a sore spot I thought was from friction and I was physically examining it, touching with my hands and looking in a mirror when I realized that it might be my old type 1 outbreak spot. I washed my hands immediately with soap and water but I had a cut on my thumb. It was mostly healed, just a flap of skin now. But I am paranoid about auto-innocculation. Am I silly to worry so much since I've had this for years? I know auto-innocculation is usually a result of primary outbreak contact.
And how paranoid do I need to be? I know I'm overdoing the OCD and stressing myself out more, it just feels "safer" to be hypervigilant.
Thanks for any insight. I'm tired of HSV having such control over me!