At this point then you and your partner both need to go and get type specific herpes igg blood tests to see who has what. Assume nothing and start out at least with seeing if hsv1 is the only herpes simplex virus in this relationship.
grace
I have not had any testing done to figure out exactly what virus I have because when I was diagnosed the doctor did a visual diagnosis and never ran any tests at all.
the herpes handbook at www.westoverheights.com is filled with terrific information on genital herpes , transmission rates and how to reduce transmission to a partner. if you haven't read it yet, be sure to take the time to do so. It's free.
what testing have you ahd done so far?
grace