Can I pass this on to my kids?

[worried2104]

HI,

I am new to this forum. I am on week 10 (test came back negative for 1 +2 but I had symptoms, not the classic patch of blisters or sores. Just a painful bump on my penis for like three weeks, pain urinating , chills (no flew, I almost never get sick). Never got a swab because it was a bump. Both docs that I went to said it did not look like it and one removed it surgically. Anyways, back to me. Got involved with a woman that seems not to know that she was HSV-2 positive. She finds out after I tell her and gets her blood tested.

Since then I have had several symptoms but no true breakout with blisters/sores other than the painful bump. I have had anal itching, a feeling of fatigue, some lack of sleep (probably stress related), some abdominal tightness and lower back pain. I also think I autoinoculated myself on the mouth because I have tingling I never had before all around my mouth. Once again no blisters or sores except a small pimple that showed up after the tingling that went away in a few days on the edge of my lip to skin.


So here I am, waiting to see what happens. But my question today is the one that gives me the greatest fear. I think I can handle H after all It was my choice to go with this woman. But I don't want to hurt my kids in any way.

Assuming I have HSV 2 and autoinoculated myself on the lips. Can I pass this to my kids. Ages 8 and 17. We live in the same home and share the bathroom and living areas.

All I read about is contradictory. I know that if I do have it on my lips I need to stay clear of kissing them (i used to kiss them on the cheek all the time) but then there is the part about viral shedding. And you don't know when that is because you show no symptoms. To top it off I have not had the typical sore/blister.

Please help  

worried2104

[Life360_Dave]

Yes your correct but understand the risk is very low when no sores are visible and from a one time affair would be close to zero and testing at 10 weeks negative is really a good indicator. Hsv2 oral is not common at all as prefers the genital ganglion.
Also a person having hsv2 oral would have to make contact with the genitals of the other person not the lips. Its contracted by genital contact.

[worried2104]

Thanks Life360,

When I was with this person I had genital to genital and oral to  her genital contact the same day. So I am not sure that counts a "established infection". couldn't it establish in either place. I didn't know what I was dealing with at first so thats the other question about autoinaculating myself in the mouth later. My understanding is that prior to three months you can spread it on  yourself because there are no antibodies in you if you where clean (neither 1 or 2).

I am just worried I could pass it to my kids from a kiss.

[Life360_Dave]

I noticed you tested negative at week 10. 8 weeks is a good indicator and 10 would be even better that you are infact negative.

[Life360_Dave]

Hi and welcome. Firstly if you concerned about herpes get tested.
Secondly a person would not pass hsv2 to the oral area. Once its an established infection in one area like the genital we are basicly immune from getting it in the oral area. Also oral hsv2 is not common at all to be at risk to contract it there needs to be direct genital to genital rubbing contact.