I would be highly unlikely that you would have asymptomatic 2 then symptomatic 1. Getting tested tomorrow will provide you with the most accurate set of answers. Remember to get only IgG, no Igm, OK? And get both HSV 1 and 2 testing.
Terri
Thank you for your timely response. I got the sore on my penis at 12 days after the contact, BUT the tip of it had an unusual redness at about day 7. This lasted for about two or three days, went away and then came a sore which was a bit tender for about 5 days and then started to heal without breaking open, oozing, or scabbing. It was a total of about three weeks from the first symptoms to the end but then it came back or maybe never totally left about a week later. Nothing since then. Does that sound more typical. Also, if I were to get a second OB would I again get headaches and lower back pain before it started or is that just for the initial OB.
I think this OB had to have been HSV-1. I never had anything before, then contact with it, then ten days later an OB which seemed exactly like what all the sites describe online. Mine did seem a little milder but all the reading I have done says that even initial OB's can be so mild that they go unoticed.
Can you have asymptomotic genital type -2 and then get symptomotic genital type 1. Which i know you said was very unlikely that it could happen anyway. Or would they both be symptomatic or both asymptomatic. I am getting tested tomorrow. Sorry I know these must be annoying questions. Thanks
Twelve days is a long time from first infection to outbreak, actually, but certainly within the range of possibility. Normally, we see an outbreak within 2-10 days, with the average being 5.5 days from infection to symptoms. Since you never had this outbreak tested, I would say that you don't know what it was, maybe herpes, yes, maybe not. What I would recommend now is that you and your partner both get type specific antibody testing for HSV 1 and 2.
In answer to your questions:
The research suggests that if you have type 2 genitally, you are highly unlikely to get HSV 1 anywhere on your body after that. If your symptoms a while ago were indeed HSV 1 infection, then it is not uncommon to have no further outbreaks, or, at least, infrequent ones.
If you've never had a cold sore, and kissed this woman as well, one might have thought you would get infected orally as well, but you just never know for sure what might happen.
Hope you both will get tested before having sexual encounters so there are no surprises for either of you.
Terri