oral herpes is transmitted through kissing.
the rashes you've had on your wrists and arms aren't likely to be due to herpes. if they reoccur, be seen promptly.
if you want to know if you have hsv1 or hsv2, you need specifically tested for them. check with your provider to see if you've had actual herpes igg blood testing done or not. typically it's not a part of routine std testing.
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