Confused

So i recently found out that i had herpes(HSV-1). So let me start from the beginning because i really need a professionals opinion on who gave it to me.

My boyfriend of 2yrs(off and on) had unprotected sex. Afterward i was fine...no symptoms or anything....we broke up and about 2weeks later a friend of mine was there to comfort me. We went out and had a good time. Well to make a long story short we had sex....but we used a condom... it hurt extremely bad and i was very dry... so the day after when i urinated it stung really bad...a few days later i had like blisters...so a week went by and the symptoms were only getting worse so i went to the ER and they told me i had  bartholin gland cyst....uggghh...that was a lie...so a week passed and the sores started having like whites painful scabs on them so my instinct told me something wasn't right. So i went to my OB and that's when she told me that it looked like i was have and Herpes Outbreak....so she ran some test and today i found out that i have HSV-1....

My ?: who actually gave it to me??? i know having sex so soon was a bad idea...but i dont wanna go and confront my ex and he's innocent...and the same with my friend....somebody plz help me!!!

[qazi12]

HSV-1 and HSV-2 are almost identical but if they told you that you have HSV-1 that means you may get cold sores around your mouth.
Also, herpes scabs are not white. And it normally does not hurt after a week. A lot of people have HSV-1 and never get an outbreak.
HSV-1 is nothing to panic about. There is medication like Valtrex that can reduce or eliminate the outbreaks.

[stupidme2009]

Being positive for HSV1 does not tell you where you have it (unless they took a culture).  Most people have it orally.  Some people have it genitally.  An even smaller minority has both.

From what I have read — and it varies a bit — if you have had a long-standing infection with HSV1, it is difficult to get it again elsewhere on the body.  So, if you have oral HSV1 and a new partner (who also has oral HSV1) gives you oral sex, the chances of catching HSV1 again is small (with a normal immune system).  This statement is backed by HHH (a doctor on this site) as well as Terri Warren (an RN on this site — http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Herpes/Chance-of-contracting-herpes-from-oral-sex/show/1091219).

So, you might ask how someone can have it in multiple places.  Normally, that happens when someone first acquires the virus.  Because the body is still developing antibodies, it is possible to touch an blister and spread it.

There are no absolutes in medical science, so the best things to do are be safe and get tested.

[LuckiiLadii]

I have HSV1 in my genitals....can someone give me some info on that....

[gracefromHHP]

what testing did they do? did they do a blood test and/or a lesion culture of active symptoms in the genital area?

there is no way to know who gave you herpes. It's too small of a time frame that you were sexually active with different partners to accurately determine that. You can ask both partners to get tested and to share their test results with you and then you'd know who has what but they might not do that.

grace