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Dating a girl with herpes

Ok so I am new here and this seemed like the best place to ask about my situation..

I have been hanging out with a girl who likes me for the past month and I really really like her too. I heard rumors that she had Herpes, but I didnt want to believe it. Anyway she told me yesterday that she did, and she got them from a boyfriend of over 2 years.

She told me she hasnt had an outbreak in over 2 years and she hasnt ever given it to anyone.. The only things we have done so far is kiss but I know I want to do more, but I am just so concerned about it..

My question is is there anything I can take that will help? or is it just wear a condom and pray?

I really like this girl so any help would be greatly appreciated.. Thanks in advance
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101028 tn?1419603004
you need to know what type she has and how she treats it.  
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what are the other questions I can ask?
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kdk120- this is not your post.. please post a question instead of posting on someone else's. Not even sure what your question is, but you should make sure you were properly tested with a type specific IGG test.
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question to anyone who may be able to help.. ive been dating this military man and recently  i went in for ovarian issues and found out i have been RECENTLY exposed to Herpes 1@ 2..  i notified him. and he went from . not me to i have no systoms. then last but not least i will go get tested ..said he went in to get tested .  but then stoped calling and no communication.. so i notified his Commanding officer.. while they were reviewing evidence he texted back that he went and that the Navy will find if he has anything ..but upon talking to his Commanding Officer  he did not go get checked and still to this hasnt been tested .  we now have a full Military investigation going on ..I am furious ..hurt and feel betrayed ..only to find out that he has had numerous sex partners and is  married .and last but not least has a baby  out that he has been hideing for over  1 year ..  in this investigation  he has stated that he has never slept with me ..my question is  i have given the Military the texts and emails , i want them to make him get  tested and  tell me the truth ..
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What other questions can I ask her?
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101028 tn?1419603004
the handbook will explain suppressive therapy to you when you get a chance to read it.

definitely talk more to her about her herpes, how she was diagnosed, how she treats it etc so you can start deciding what precautions to take together.
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No I havent been tested, and I dont know what one she has. She told me she got it from her old boyfriend..

Whats supressive therapy?
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101028 tn?1419603004
First things first - have you been tested for herpes to know your own status? If not, that's your next step. You and your gf can't make educated decisions about what precautions to take until you know who has what.

does she have hsv1 or hsv2 genitally?  how does she treat her herpes?

google the free herpes handbook by terri warren - it comes up right away. It's a terrific source of information for more reading too.

grace
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Hey C Money

I tested positive for herpes, so I probably have the virus, its kinda hard to accept because i dont have outbreaks that i know for sure are outbreaks, so its kinda like i dont have it. ANyway, Im dating a guy that does not have herpes..he knows everything. We use condoms, I was on supressive therapy (Im not now, but might go back on)...I just dont want to take a pill everyday... but it reduces transmission, so I think Im gonna go back on it to protect him.  DO you know your status? You might have it and not know like a million other people in this world.

Im sure when you were younger you didnt imagine your potential future wife to have herpes, but things happens, its called LIFE...its not a deadly virus....and the chances of you dating someone else who has herpes if you break up with this one is pretty high. I think its one in four woman have it...and most dont even know.  Its not a big deal.. its just the stigma attached to it.

When I found out I had hsv ii and after my bf was okay with it, i didnt understand it.. i asked him so many times... "how can you be with me?" "why do you love me so much?"  or I would say "u can have anyone you want, and I have herpes, why do you want to be with me?"  and he says "I am just happier when Im with you than when im without and i love you" ...and thats all i need to hear.  Couples go through a lot of grieve..... serious health issues...physical incapabilies...depression.. addiction.... compared to everything else herpes is so stupid..

For now I would just consider the risk, take precautions- use condoms, no sex during outbreaks, maybe she can go on supressive therapy?... How does she know she was infected? She should make sure she was tested properly.

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