The emotional trauma you feel is directly related to how awful you think herpes is. Just for the record, herpes is an inconvenient medical problem that has far more psychological implications than medical ones. It is well managed with medication. It can be transmitted to other people through sexual contact which makes it such an emotionally loaded condition
Terri
Just spoke to the second girl that is sick. Her dr called and told her she had a bacterial infection. Dodged that bullet but it is amazing the thoughts in my head still torment me. Hard to just accept the news and come down from this place of worry. I almost believe the emotional trauma is worse than the disease.
My bumps havent cleared up completely and i think i can get something out of them. if i can get some fluid out could i still get a swab done?
I think she has had some cold sores but not a regular thing. I never have had one. Thanks for your response. One thing is for sure, no matter how this turns out my world view has been changed forever.
Hmmmm. Difficult to say for sure what might be going on here. If the clinician that you saw didn't think it was herpes, I'm assuming she did no swab test? Usually herpes doesn't have pus in it, at least not the kind you are describing, though sometimes they can get a pale white color to the nature of the blister. It is possible that one person could have infected you and you could have given it to the other girl, yes.
I think my advice for now would be to wait and see if the 2nd girl develops any sores on the outside of her mouth. Do you know if the 1st girl has a history of cold sores? Is that something you could ask?
In truth, it would have been much better if swab testing had been done both from your penis and the throat of the 2nd girl. An antibody test for you, if you have new infection, is not going to be very helpful because antibody takes time to develop and it was too soon for that.
If I had to take a guess I would say herpes probably isn't involved, but I certainly couldn't be certain about that by any means.
Wish I could be more helpful or more certain but under the circumstances, I think you will have to wait and see what happens here.
Terri