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GHSV-1 Lots of questions and telling your spouse
I was recently diagnosed with GHSV-1. I have a ton of questions. I know it's possible and highly likely that I've had this for years and didn't know. Is it possible that my husband still doesn't have this? Are yeast infections a common misdiagnosis? How likely am I to give this to him (assuming he doesn't have it orally or genitally)? I haven't told him yet (haven't been intimate either). I don't know how to. I am afraid he will think I cheated or something and as more time passes, the longer I wait, I am sure when I finally do get up the nerve, he will really think I did. I am so confused and lost. I feel like this has competely taken over my life.
Unless you get an obvious cold sore, no easy way to know if you also contracted hsv1 orally at the same time or not.
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since i have it "down there" does that mean I could potentially get cold sores on my mouth etc?
Hsv1 genitally doesn't shed very often. You can transmit it to a partner but usually if you just avoid having sex anytime you have any genital symptoms, that's all it takes to protect them.
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Does it happen a lot that I would have it and not pass it on to him, if indeed I've had this for a long time?
Herpangina isn't due to herpes simplex virus. It's a different virus that causes it.
Most adults do have hsv1 orally. Even if he can't recall a history of cold sores, chances are good that your hubby has hsv1 orally himself.
Unless you had a blood test at the same time as your genital culture that also said hsv1+, no way to know if you recently acquired hsv1 genitally from hubby or if it's something you contracted prior to hubby and this is just your first obvious recurrence of it.
I'd just sit down your husband and tell him the way you've told us - you went to the doctor and weren't you shocked to find out that you have genital herpes. Let him know that the tests came back that it's hsv1 genitally which is almost always transmitted from oral sex and chances are good that it came from him. I'm sure he's noticed that you are bothered by something so have the talk as soon as you can and just start dealing with it.
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Most adults do have hsv1 orally. Even if he can't recall a history of cold sores, chances are good that your hubby has hsv1 orally himself.
Unless you had a blood test at the same time as your genital culture that also said hsv1+, no way to know if you recently acquired hsv1 genitally from hubby or if it's something you contracted prior to hubby and this is just your first obvious recurrence of it.
I'd just sit down your husband and tell him the way you've told us - you went to the doctor and weren't you shocked to find out that you have genital herpes. Let him know that the tests came back that it's hsv1 genitally which is almost always transmitted from oral sex and chances are good that it came from him. I'm sure he's noticed that you are bothered by something so have the talk as soon as you can and just start dealing with it.
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but, is it possible that my husband doesn't even have it and I got this years ago before he and I even knew eachother?
I haven't known him to have cold sores, but he did get viral menengitis a few years ago. Our son had herpangina when he was little, so I guess it's possible that my husband got it that way. I've known for about a month about this. I had one sore that I thought was an HPV wart ( i've had that for over 10 years and haven't had an outbreak since I was first diagnosed). But, I had been under a lot of stress, so I figured it was just that. Come to find out, it wasn't.
Do you and your hubby engage in oral sex? Does he have a history of cold sores that you are aware of?
How long have you known you have hsv1 genitally?
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How long have you known you have hsv1 genitally?
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
