The igm is a poor test in general and should never be used on adults. You can not assume she has herpes based on an igm result. was her igg +? Did she have genital symptoms?
Totally disregard her igm results. it's a bad, bad test and not remotely accurate and should've never been drawn. It has a high false positive rate. http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/248394 is a prior post on it with more info.
At this point, she needs to make sure she was tested for yeast and bacterial infections to make sure that neither of them are causing redness and irritation. When you get a chance, follow up on your blood tests and then I can help you figure out if your wife needs to repeat her igg at any point or not. If it's been more than 3 months since you last had sex
Hey, If the last time i have been with a girl other than my wife was about two years before we got married, which would be about four years ago. If i got it then would my wife have IgG and IgM? Cause she only has IgM. Is that good.
If you had genital herpes from prior to meeting your wife, she doesn't necessarily have it. Discordant couples can go years and even a lifetime without transmitting the virus to the uninfected couple.
did you get a chance to read the link I posted in the last response. It explains the igm theory in detail as well as why a + igm for herpes is meaningless.
No, no signs that you are aware of doesn't mean you aren't infected. Once you are able to get tested, you'll have a better idea of your own status. it's perfectly understandable that you aren't able to do that right now!
I'm sure with you being so far aware from home and under so much stress, trying to handle this and better understand it all is just adding to your stress more. At this point, it's out of your hands
. Your wife needs to continue following up on things on her end and in time you'll be able to get the testing done that you need done too. Not quick and easy answers for either of you but in a few months you'll have the answers you need :)