Your perspective is a wise one. What am i going to do, go around not kissing anyone anymore and stop dating? This was a learning experience, I will not have someone tested for hsv 1 again. I would rather not know so I don't have thoughts about it. In addition, I will only have myself tested again if I develop symptoms of a clinical infection. I just wish I knew the possible transmission risk to help rationalize my paranoid hypochondriac mind. Thank you very much.
Let's say you marry and have an active sex life, there is no more than a 50% chance over your life that you will be infected avoiding outbreaks.
Even if you are infected, this is a mostly harmless virus, particularly if you are infected genitally. It isn't as dramatic a condition that would threaten joining to a lover in search of your soul mate.