HSV 1 how to tell the guy im dating we cant have sex

[AppletonScience]

I was diagnosed with genital HSV1 4 years ago and never had an outbreak since until about a month ago when I was getting severe anxiety about something I felt very guilty about. Anxiety to the point I couldn't sleep, and within 2 days, an outbreak. This time same thing I felt horrible for hooking up with someone else, my long distance guy of 2 years is coming to visit and I get horrible anxiety again and it's back.

1. This time it's different, little red bumps near my anus that sting when I walk, is that normal? And the past week I thought I had razor burn because I had 2 bumps on my vagina lips and had shaven with a ****** razor, any chance those could be ingrown hairs and the anal bumps HSV1?

2. How do I tell the guy that's coming I cant have sex with him? Will condoms protect him from HSV1 since it's harder to spread through sex?

3. Could these bumps  near my anus be something else? It felt like just 1 and within today now there's 4. And how long until they go away??

[HowardH]

Even if you have genital HSV1, that's almost never a reason to not have sex. Genital HSV1 is rarely transmitted sexually to partners, because outbreaks are rare (as you have found) and so is asymptomatic shedding of the virus.

[johnny20]

How do you know you have hsv1 genital if you have never had a breakout? I didn't think the blood test differentiates between oral andgenital?

[ssstttuuupppiiiddd]

You should be able to say anything. My _____ hurts. A good guy will be sad but wont want to hurt you. If he wont take that for a reason... well now its time to fight. You know....(( im hurt and you dont even care.))

A yeast infection would be good. Or something like that.

this is((NOT)) the best advice. Fleetwood 20 probably has the right idea. It is never a good idea to lie to someone you care about. Plus your going to have to tell him sooner or later. Hopefully befor you have sex with him outbreak or no outbreak.

[Fleetwood20]

It does seem quite possible these bumps are something other than herpes lesions. Herpes lesions are generally not a clearly defined multiple single bumps. They are more a single patch that will have one or more blister like bubbles within.

It is always wiser to avoid sex during an outbreak. However if this partner is aware of your genital HSV1 infection they could make a choice about what activity they might be comfortable with given the uncertainty as to whether these are lesions at all. If they are not comfortable, and that's reasonable, then they will understand your issue and more likely think highly of you for putting them first.

The key issue though is whether this partner already has HSV1. If he does, then the risk of infection is dramatically reduced. I would think it best still to avoid activity if an outbreak is going on.