I have HSV II , only found out when I asked my doctor to run test for all STDs and took the Herpselect test. As far as outbreaks being bad this is not true. I have never had an initial outbreak I can identify nor a single outbreak that I know of. So the symptoms are so mild as to be unnoticeable and I have probably had it for years. So your husband did not necessarily cheat on you. I have read one on four adult women have HSV II and one in five men if statistics are true. 90 percent of them have no symptoms they are aware of. You or your husband could have had it for years and not known it.
If you only had an IgM that came back as positive, then disregard that totally.
If your IgG was negative, and this is herpes, then its a new infection.
Aj
1. yes, but it is usually rare and much milder.
2. see below--
3. yes, in a sense-- sometimes it takes years for partners of pos persons to catch it. he may have it and not even know, have no symptoms at all.
4. yes, see above.
5. the only way to tell is by a blood test.
6. igg tests are highly accurate, but require about 3+ months post exposure to be accurate.