After 15 faithful years of marriage, I was diagnosed with genital HSV. My concern is that I may somehow transfer the virus to my 6 year old son. He is still at the age where he likes to snuggle in bed as we read a bedtime story, and although we are both fully clothed in pajamas, I worry that the virus will somehow shed onto his bedsheets and he will become infected somehow. How long does the virus stay alive on inanimate objects and is it in high enough concentrations to be infectious in such a situation? Can the virus be transmitted through two layers of clothing?
Also, if I hold his hold while crossing the road after just using the bathroom, what is the possibility that residual virus remains on my hand even after thorough handwashing? What if my son then shortly goes to the bathroom to urinate and holds his penis down while urinating? Could the virus be in high enough concentrations to infect him? I'm extremely worried about these possible scenarios and my hands are becoming raw from overzealous handwashing. Am I overthinking? Please help.