shedding can be as little as a few hours at a time in between obvious lesions. most people also seem to shed about a day prior to obvious symptoms too.
even though condoms aren't overall all that effective at preventing herpes transmission, they really do help. daily suppressive therapy is what really reduces shedding to protect you best.
I haven't transmitted the virus since the first year I was infected. I don't use condoms in long term relationships. I am always on daily suppressive therapy though. Precautions really do work :) It's the folks who aren't aware that they are infected and don't take precautions to reduce transmission that tend to transmit the virus.
Grace, thanks so much! That makes sense about how my genes/immune system deals with the virus.
She is definitely worth a 1% risk, but that seems so incredibly low. Because if she is shedding the virus 3/52 weeks (5.8%) even a condom will not protect me right?
Also- does shedding only happen before outbreaks, or can it happen whenever?
The reason I thought condoms are only 30-50% effective is because they do not cover the other areas such as scrotum or thighs that could have contact with infected areas. By wearing boxer briefs those areas would be covered, and therefore I would be less likely to have direct skin-on-skin contact.
Thank you again so much for the help. This is a really tough decision and your advice is greatly appreciated.
actually there's no such thing as a "bad" strain of hsv2. It's actually more about your genes as to how often you are likely to have recurrences. regardless of how often you have obvious recurrences, the virus seems to shed about the same.
so why doesn't the math add up? because you are trying to compare the proverbial apples to oranges. daily suppressive therapy takes shedding down significantly so that the virus is only active a few weeks total out of the year. the odds of having sex when it's active is overall, even without suppressive therapy, low.
with just avoiding sex any time she has anything going on genitally, her taking daily suppressive therapy and you using a condom taking your risk on average to 1%/year, not worth trying to cover your nether regions even more. statistically it doesn't reduce your risk enough to make the extra precautions warranted. make sense?
grace
please continue using condoms i think that you'll be allright even from skin contact ok