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Had a one night stand and now i'm really nervous I could have gotten herpes

Hey everyone I am new here, and I just wanted to share my story and get some opinions of my situation.

I'm a 31 yr old guy and last Friday I hooked up with a random 25 yr old girl that I met that night. We didn't use any protection and had intercourse and both did oral. The sex was not rough, as she was plenty wet enough. I asked her before we started if she had anything and she said "no, I would never do anything to endanger you", but I don't entirely trust her because she seemed to hesitate (maybe she didn't understand the question) and she might not even know herself. I didn't notice any lesions or anything on her, but she did have a small zit on her cheek. Immediately after I used a bunch of scope mouthwash and water and washed my face and washed my groin with water. I read the virus is fragile and can sometimes be washed off. Then about 20 mins later I practically covered my face, groin, and genitals with hand sanitizer. It burned a little but I was freaking out with regret so i had to do something. Then about 30 mins later I took a shower and used a lot of soap and neutrogena face wash which I believe has alcohol in it. I asked her again the next morning a couple times if she had any STD's and she said she's never had anything and was getting more defensive about it.

Now for the bombshell, the next day I find out from a friend of a friend that she used to be a porn star! I googled her porn name and it was definitely her. I confronted her about it and she said she only did it for a month like 5 years ago, but there were a bunch of pics and videos so I'm skeptical it was only for a month, but she did look younger in them. So now I'm thinking she probably has something but doesn't know it because shes one of the asymptomatic people. I asked her when the last time she was tested was, but she didn't answer the question.

So after a couple days I was getting chapped lips and raised hair follicle bumps (I have a goat-tee) in the corner of my mouth and i get that sometimes around this time of year, and after I used chap stick it thankfully went away. Over the past couple days I have felt slight itchy and tingly feelings in my groin but never saw anything when I checked things out. I was hoping it was just because I was being hyper sensitive. To confuse things more I played some sports on that same day and my legs were sore all weekend. Now this morning my upper groin on my left side only is a little sore. I am paranoid it is my lymph nodes, but maybe i just slightly pulled a groin muscle? So at this point I am just paranoid and waiting it out. What do you guys think, could I have reduced my chances enough by washing off afterwards? Does that not compensate for the no protection? I've never regretted something so much in my life, I really hope I am still clean.

Thanks for reading
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Hi, washing does not help as would be contracted during the intercourse. Unprotected sex is a risk for all std,s and you might consider some testing to  help put this behind you.

Gono and chlamydia---1 week
herpes and HIV-----3 months
syphilis-----------6 weeks
HPV----------no test available for this.
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yeah i am definitely going to get tested as soon as i can. Herpes, 3 months though? I read 4-6 weeks?
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This isn't the original site I read it on, but it's saying basically the same thing:

"Wash thoroughly with soap and water after sex; virii aren't very strong. Soap and hot water kill and/or wash away the herpes virus if it hasn't already made it through a break in your skin."

source: http://www.asheris.net/health/FAQ.html
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Herpes is conclusive at 3 months. Regard to washing, did you wash off the herpes virus before it entered the nerve?
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I guess the washing theory is kind of a tough question, and obviously I have no idea, I'm just going by anything I read on the internet. This is interesting though, here is a medical study that says rubbing alcohol (very similar to what's in hand sanitizer) will inactive the virus in zero time:

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC266254/

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. Most herpes virus is contracted through vaginal sex. By rubbing and grinding naked gentital areas like the public bone area. Also herpes can be in the vagina so it can get into the penis urethra, did you wash the inside of your penis?
If your pubic areas did not touch or if you grinded a few seconds and ran to the bathroom and washed then maybe there would be some effectiveness to the washing. But all this is just talk as bottom line you were put at risk and if you have a long term partner, i would suggest testing in 3 months.
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One question I have is, if my lymph nodes were swollen would it always be on both sides or is it sometimes just on one side?
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one side
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continued... but could be both sides as a symptom of a primary outbreak are swollen nodes.
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are you saying if it's a primary outbreak then both nodes are typically swollen? Also would the swelling come and go or should it be constant? because today it isn't really bothering me.
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First time infection can be a whole body experience as the immune system is building antibodies and setting up a defense. This could include body aches, swollen nodes and fever.
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hey everyone, just to update, I am on my 10th day now and have not had any real signs of anything yet. I know it can take up to 3 weeks for the first outbreak to happen, but I read that it is most common to get the first signs in the first week, is that true in peoples experiences?

For almost a week now I have an occasional tingling or irritation feeling on my lip, but every time i look at it, it still looks perfectly normal (I am still wondering if it's just in my head). If it was prodome tingling, would it have really lasted this long or should it have turned into blisters by now? After reading some more I was wondering if it might just be oral thrush? Obviously I will talk to my doctor as soon as i have any visible signs.

Other then that I had a breif(~6 hours) sore throat on one side of my face one day, and I haven't felt any soreness near any of my lymph nodes pretty much since my last post.

Also this site (http://www.thestdproject.com/std-testing-windows-when-to-get-tested-stds/) says that Herpes will "most likely" show up in a blood test after 4-6 weeks, but I know you all were recommending 3 months. I know 3 months is to be really sure, but I was wondering if anyone here had false negatives after only 4-6 weeks?

thanks
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Hi again, if symptoms do occur it is usual 2 to 12 days. Tingling would not last that long and as mentioned is most often associated  recurrent and also often with genital. Maybe you should test at the 4 to 6 week mark to rest your concerns but as also mentioned 70% of the adult population would test positive for hsv1 oral.
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I have to say I am not typical but for me I have had skin irritations for over a year. Burning in the butt crack area and scrotum along with feeling like most of my body is sun burnt and tingling in other parts of my body - ALL of this for over a year.

People who test negative should always remember what it feels like to worry and think the worse. THEN get tested before sleeping with anyone new and stay monogamous.
Time to take my next pill. :-(  
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So you are saying you have herpes, but your symptoms are irritations all over instead of sores like people typically have?

Just an update, it's been 19 days for me now so I am outside of the window for my first outbreak, with no definitive symptoms, but am wondering if I could still have it but be asymptomatic. I know it's a waiting game still.

I did get a jock itch rash a couple days ago which caused a little bit of a concern, but I immediately put Zeasorb on it and it pretty much went away by the next day, so that was a relief. So far I am just thinking I got some kind of fungus/yeast infection from the encounter.

Thanks for everyone's feedback, I know there are a million threads just like this one and people probably get sick of hearing the same old dumb stories over and over. For me this whole experience has been very eye opening and I know I will never make the same mistake again, whether I caught something or not, it's definitely not worth the emotional roller coaster.

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